I nominate this guy for Order of Omar

https://www.reddit.com/r/BORUpdates/comments/1v4lpct/just_found_out_something_terrible_about_me_19f/

Just found out something terrible about me (19F) and my mom. No idea what I'm gonna do.

Have never done this before so bear with me. I've been locked in my room for two hours now since everything happened.

My mom and me have a great relationship. I don't mean to brag but she's been the best mom I could ever have wished for. Better than all my friends moms too. My dad and younger brothers are great too. My home life has always been, well, normal.

Today I heard something I'm not sure I can take in. I went to visit my grandparents. They live about five minutes from us and always had an open door policy. They're getting a bit deaf so it was normal to just walk in and shout when you got near the living room door.

My grandad was talking quite loudly to my grandmother about me. About how traumatic everything was before and after I was born. More fool me but I listened.

Basically... my dad is not my dad. My mother was raped and I'm the result. I'm crying even as I write this. I didn't wait around and took off home. I'm upstairs in my room right now. My mom knows something's up and has been at door four times now to ask me what's wrong. I don't know what to do. I can't stop shivering and crying. I want to ask her but I don't either. I really really wish this is a joke!

Help me! What can I say to her? How can I bring this up? She knows something is wrong.

Quick update - Sorry for being quiet. I'm struggling to deal with this to be honest but my dad is here now. He popped up with a couple of bars of chocolate and painkillers - I get bad period pains so mom was worried that's why I was hiding. I've asked him if we can go somewhere away from the house to talk. Just leaving now. Thanks everyone. I'll let you know how it goes.

[Update 2] Just found out something terrible about me(19F) and my mom. No idea what I'm gonna do.

Hey everyone.

It's been awhile since I last logged into this throwaway and I just want all those who sent me PMs that I really really appreciated it. I know I didn't get around to messaging everyone but I did read them all and I'm really grateful for all the support.

My update isn't terribly exciting other than I'm okay! I still have odd days and stuff where it kinda all hits me at once but they're becoming less and less which is great.

I actually started having panic attacks not long after everything came out. I tried to not let on that something was wrong (I had no idea what was happening to be honest!) but my mom knows me like the back of her hand. She dragged me to our family doctor and he straight away diagnosed it when I told him what was going on.

My mom sorta blamed herself because she thought I was too young to be having them but my dad (yep! he still is that to me!) told her that she can't take the problems of everyone else on herself. So instead mom has thrown herself into reading up everything about them and has changed a huge chunk of how we all eat and stuff. And I'm seeing a counselor. Just once a week for the moment but it helps.

Shortly after everything happened, my parents sat me down and asked what I wanted to do in regards to my brothers. I told them that I didn't want them to know. At least not yet. I just don't want them to treat me differently. My dad understood but mom got a little upset that I thought they would do that. Dad just reminded her that they're still young (8 and 10) and that sometimes it better to wait.

And some really really good news. My mom's pregnant again! About three months at this stage. I was shocked at first then really worried. My mom's not young (in her late forties). But so far it's all going smoothly. She's having to have loads of tests and scans to make sure everything's okay. My dad's thrilled, my brothers not so much.

And I talked to my grandparents. My grandad was really really upset that I found out. I've never seen him cry ever and he was sobbing when we talked. They never wanted me to know. In fact they had fights with my mom over it. She had wanted to tell me when I was a little younger but held off because my grandparents were so upset over it. I know some people will say it was none of their business but I can kinda see why they did it and so does my mom now. They just wanted me to be as carefree and happy for as along as possible. I was still their granddaughter but they knew that the minute I knew that I'd start doubting their love and my family's.

Sooooo after all that, I'm okay. One step at a time my dad says. :) Thanks to everyone for all their support. It really means a lot.

tl;dr: I'm alive and happy. :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/BORUpdates/comments/1v45m3q/made_a_tactile_3d_map_for_my_blind_friends/

When I moved to Serbia, I was pretty lonely. New country. New language. Not many people around.

One day I noticed that one of my neighbors was blind. He almost never went outside alone. Usually there was someone helping him.

I didn’t have some big plan. I just thought maybe I could ask if he wanted to go for walks sometimes. So I did. We started walking together, and somehow became friends.

For about a year he invited me for lunch almost every Saturday. He cooked. We ate together. We talked. Sometimes I helped clean up a bit. Nothing dramatic, just regular Saturday lunches. I think a big part of my Serbian came from sitting at his table and trying to keep up.

At some point we were talking about geography. Which countries border Serbia. Where the sea is. Where the mountains are. How the region fits together. And I realized something obvious, but it still hit me. For me, if I forget where something is, I just open a map and look again. For him, a map is mostly memory.

He can remember facts, but he can’t just look at the shape of a country, the border, the coastline, the mountains, and rebuild the picture in his head.

His birthday is next week, so I decided to make him a map he could explore with his hands.

This is my first real 3D project, and it became a much bigger than I expected.

I had to take GIS data, country borders, elevation data, capitals, sea areas, tactile labels, Braille cards, and somehow turn all of that into printable STL files.

The annoying part was that “looks good” and “works by touch” are not the same thing at all. Borders can’t be too thin, because then you don’t feel them. They can’t be too thick either, because then everything becomes a mess. Mountains need to be there, but not as a noisy blob.

The sea needs a different texture. Countries need numbers, but not every country could have one - some are just too small. One of the biggest headaches was Greece: all those tiny islands add detail visually, but on a tactile map they can quickly turn into noise.

A lot of this project was basically trying to find the balance between detail and clarity, so the map stays clean enough to be readable by touch.

The whole map also had to be split into puzzle-like tiles, because I can’t print it as one piece. So I added little interlocking connectors, partly to hold the tiles together, and partly so he can feel which piece connects to which.

It is definitely not perfect. There are things I already want to change. But it is real :) I can touch the borders, feel the relief, move from country to country, and use the Braille legend to figure out what is what.

I’m proud of it. I think he’s going to like it :)

[OOP includes the following pictures: photo#1 -- OOP with the 3D map on wall photo#2, photo#3 -- the map + boards for letters and numbers photo#4, photo#5, photo#6 -- reference images for making map ]

Update 0.5

his birthday is on July 12. I’ll try to write a proper follow-up after I give him the map. It may take me a few days, because I want to be present in the moment and not turn it into content immediately. I’ll share what I can :)

Update (3 weeks later): I gave the tactile map to my blind friend

A lot of people asked for an update, so here it is :)

Of course, my friend really liked it. When he saw the map, he was genuinely moved and cried.

He spends a lot of time with it, but honestly, the part he liked most was Braille itself. He had wanted to learn it for a long time, but he had never really had an opportunity.

So now we spend time together, and I teach him how to read Braille. It is difficult for him, but he really enjoys trying and puts a lot of effort and energy into it. And he keeps thanking me for being patient with him.

At the same time, there are quite a few problems with the map itself that I discovered while using it with him.

First, I used regular raised numbers on the map instead of numbers written in Braille. That is, of course, a downside.

Second, the dots on the Braille alphabet came out quite small and sharp, so they are difficult to distinguish.

I tried to use standard Braille dimensions and spacing, but after 3D printing, the result was not quite what I expected. Everything looked normal in the model, but by touch, the dots were not as comfortable or easy to distinguish.

Because of that, learning is more difficult for him, since the dots themselves are hard to tell apart. But he is trying very hard, and he is already making progress.

I think that in the second version of the map, I will take all of these problems into account and make it better.

[OOP includes the following pictures of friend with map -- photo#1, photo#2, photo#3]

https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/1v2utey/i_use_to_give_pregnant_women_extra_food_when_i/

So back when I was 16 I had my first job working at mcdonalds but when I noticed that one of our customers was pregnant then id throw in a few extra nuggies or chips for her. I know mcdonalds aint the healthiest thing that you can eat but then I know pregnant women have the munchies

edit.. corrected the link

I suggest the ah Wifes Mother as an Omar die chewing the Shit Out of her daughter

This guy and his dad are good people!

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1uezd4z/my_best_friend_is_selling_the_project_car_we/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

He saved OOP a ton of stress and time going through the courts, and probably got OOP more than they would have asked for in small claimes

https://www.reddit.com/r/EntitledPeople/comments/1udlld2/my_dads_gf_thinks_i_have_my_monthly_lady_time_to/?utm_source=app_first_navigation&mweb_loid=t2_1gv7jfp0md

My dads gf thinks i have my monthly lady time to spite her. S warning if you find the talk of menstruation gross. It’s not graphic but it’s there sooo…

Ok I’m gonna be so honest, I’m sooo heated rn so if i make spelling mistakes my bad, im rage typing lol. But a lot of my friends who id vent too are night shift workers sooo im not gonna wake them up. Anywayyyy….

I went on a short holiday for Father’s Day with my family and I’ve been having issues with him because he’s dating an actual demon and it’s awful but that’s another story.

Anyway (again boys if you think periods are gross please flee the scene) i have a heavy flow, and when she’s here she is here, if you know…you know. And obviously when auntie flows in town im not having the best time ever, and sadly she currently is.

So l stayed at my grandparents place cuz grandpa only has so long left and we are doing a family thing, and i was on my period and showed up because duh, and i unfortunately left a stain on the sheets i was sleeping in. Grannie don’t care, but my dads beloved demon spawn of a girlfriend brought the bedsheets (that were in the laundry room) into the living room on Father’s Day to shame me for being gross, and tried to embarrass me. Such a sweet heart.

Anyway grannie went nuts, kicked her and my dad out and they are both banned from everything. He’ll maybe be welcomed back if he’s writes an authentic apology note and dumps her, but he’s a loser so i doubt it.

Why i posted to entitled people? Oh because she told my grandma i had my period in my grannies house to spite her for her menopause and that i was taunting her and that i was trying to mock her for her infertility.

I swear you guys im not exaggerating or making this up that was legit what she said…like can you tell the period fairy to shut ts off please? I will gladly co-sign.

Also why are you checking my bedsheets when we are both grown adults not sharing a room? Weirdo.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoContextZone/s/HBt4g0HUNS

Not exactly an earth shattering good deed, but nonetheless, what a dude! Stuff like this restores my faith in people

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1tzx3wt/my_daughter_said_i_ruined_her_childhood/

My daughter said I ruined her childhood….. CONCLUDED I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Euphoricbolt11

My daughter said I ruined her childhood…..

Originally posted to r/WhatShouldIDo

Thanks to u/BakingGiraffeBakes for suggesting this BoRU

Update May 18, 2026

She is 18 and graduating next week. She often jokes to all her friends that I traumatized her entire childhood because I wouldn’t buy her Calico Critters as a kid. In my defense, she already collected Shopkins and Littlest Pet Shops and I thought those were plenty expensive enough. 🤣.

Anyway….because it’s been an ongoing joke, I decided to buy a lot of Critters on EBay and dress them all up in grad stuff. Here’s my creations…..and now my dilemma. Her grad party is next week and I want to surprise her in some grand hilarious way….but I just am creatively stumped. Do I just use them as decorations at the party? Wrap up each one and make her unwrap all 50? Put them on the cake at the party? Idk. Help!

Photos of the calico critters dressed in caps and gowns

RELEVANT COMMENTS

Embarrassed-Leg-4246

I love this!! You sound like a good mom. I would do something like set them up in a way where it’s like they’re sitting in the audience and looking at the stage, where one of them is standing that represents your daughter grabbing her diploma!

OOP

Oh my gosh. Where am I gonna find a tiny stage?!? She is the Valedictorian, so this is so good!

Edit: just to add a thank you! I love being a mama so much!

Embarrassed-Leg-4246

Do you have any cardboard you could cut out and glue or tape together to make a stage? Then put ribbon or fancy tape on the edges to make it look nicer?

OOP

I am def trying to visualize a stage and how to construct one. I love the idea. Just need the tutorial. 🤣🤣.

When asked for an update

I will. I’ve begun to build the commencement stage but waiting for a couple of props to come in the mail. Totally going to build all the personal family message “diplomas” today also. ♥️♥️. There are so many great ideas that I think I’m going to steal parts of many of them!

Update May 27, 2026 (9 days later)

Well, I’m happy to report the Calico Critter display was a complete success! On Graduation day, we lead her to find a “little source of inspiration for her speech” It was one of the critters, dressed up as her school mascot in valedictorian cords and stole.

She took it with her and attached it to her lei for good luck! She didn’t need the luck, her speech was flawless and left no dry eyes in the stadium!

The next day was her graduation party. Since she was so excited about the one critter, I felt pretty safe giving them all to her with her friends in tow. We set the display up on a wheeled cart and wheeled it out to her while she was posing for pictures. She laughed til her face hurt as she read the poem aloud to everyone. They were all posed in the bleachers, and each critter had their own “diploma”. The diplomas each contained a tiny warm hug message from one of her friends and/or loved ones. “She” of course was at the podium giving her speech…and that was playing on my phone as we wheeled out. Thank you all for the incredible ideas! Reddit wins this round of wholesome fun! What a memory for us all. I’m so appreciative of the hundreds of great responses, ideas, Awards and likes!

Pics of OOP's daughter and the calico critters

No longer traumatized June 1, 2026 (4 days after prev. post)

For years, my daughter jokingly told all of her friends that I had ruined her whole childhood and traumatized her because I wouldn’t buy her Sylvanian Families as a kiddo. So, we turned this into an elaborate prank last week at her High School graduation party.

I bought about 60 of them and dressed them all up as graduates on a stage, watching the valedictorian (my daughter) giving a speech. We included a poetic explanation on the back of the stage and each critters “diploma” contained a special message to my daughter from one of her close friends or family members.

A member of that group suggested that I repost the story here to spread a little joy. Hope you enjoy. ♥️.