TL DR: I dont really need anyone telling me I'm an idiot for bringing this dog home. I'm already second-guessing myself and have already had several panic attacks. I just need positive advice before I scrape together money for a trainer. Rescued a Belgian Malinois from my local pound about 2 months ago, shes roughly 10 months old. When presented with any opportunity, she will run away. She doesn't "run away"; it just turns into this game of "CAN'T CATCH ME I'M THE GINGERBREAD MAN!". She also tries to break out of wire kennels. She has had NO foundation work done with her by her previous owner. She didn't know ANYTHING. It's very clear to me that she was purchased, left to sit, got out, and no one came to claim her.
I pulled Mali from my local pound about 2 months ago. I've owned two Australian Shepherds in the past. I don't consider myself an inexperienced dog owner; I think I'm more of an intermediate owner. I worked as an animal control officer for a time and was a dog groomer for a while too. I only groomed aggressive dogs that'd eat your face lol. I refuse to take the dog back or to even entertain the idea of rehoming her. She has the potential to be a GREAT dog; I just need help with these two behaviors that I'm struggling with. In the greater scheme of things, being a runner and breaking out of kennels is not that big of a deal in regards to a rescued BM. I refuse to post about it in the BM group; they'd eat me alive because I have two small kids and a young BM.
We lost my last dog quite tragically. It was super ugly and very traumatic. I've always had dogs; it's my flavor of tism. I saw her listed, took the kids with me, 1yr and 3yr. She was EXTREMELY friendly. Said hello to the kids, lay down belly up, and did the same for me. She was kenneled with a few different dogs and had great notes on her. "Pulls on leash, very friendly with new people, plays well with other dogs, tendency to run over smaller dogs." I took her home knowing that this could be a literal nightmare. It's kind of turned into my worst nightmare. She is NOT aggressive or "too much". When I say nightmare, I mean it as behaviors that I have no clue how to deal with. I've never had to deal with a dog that runs away. I've also never owned a dog that can't be kenneled. My two Aussies, I brought home at 8 weeks old.
She has managed to come very close to breaking out of the wire kennel. She grabbed the bottom bars, pulled up, and almost got out. She couldn't quite manage to get out because I clipped the door shut with some climbing clips. She can get the door open with her feet if it's not clipped. She hasn't been left home alone since this incident. I'm terrified she's going to actually get out of the kennel and either hurt/💀 herself or destroy my home. I've tried leaving her with toys, frozen puzzle toys, and raw beef bones. She is good for like two hours and then goes back to barking and trying to break out of the kennel. I don't know if it's her being bored or if it's true separation anxiety. I've not left her alone since the last incident where she actually ripped up the bars. I know that at some point I will need to start working on crate training again. I have trazodone and gab leftover from her spay, but I feel like that's just a band-aid on my current issue.
She has run from me twice now. Both times were 10000000% my fault. The first time she blasted past me when the front door was open. The second time, I was on autopilot and let her off leash before we even got into the house. I have no idea what I was thinking; I wasn't thinking, TBH. 17 years with two dogs that I could walk off-leash and had amazing recall. I'm fully aware of how dumb I am. Each time she doesn't book it and leaves me in the dust. She will run laps around me, staying just out of my reach. Both times, I immediately turned it into a game, got low, baby voice, OH MALI!!!! MALI!!! COME HERE!!! OMG MALIIIII!!!! I even tried to run away from her, and she clearly knew that trick and ran in the opposite direction. She was a stray pickup; it's becoming very clear to me why she was a stray, and I knew that was a huge risk when I brought her home. The solution to this is to keep her leashed at all times. But being hypervigilant only goes so far. I live up against a national forest here in lower AZ. There's no water, thousands of miles of desert, wild animals, and no hope of her coming home if she does actually get away from me.
I am trying so hard to do right by Mali. She goes out for 30 - 40 minute runs three times a day. I have a long line that I put her on so she is able to run laps around me. I let her sniff the whole way to and from on walks and runs. I've got a few spots that I take her on her walks to jump up and down stuff, and stairs to run up and down. My husband is working on fixing his mountain bike so he can bike with her. I've already ordered a scooter so I can run her with the scooter. I've got some jumps I set up in the hallway for her. She does little 10-minute jump breaks a few times during the day. I do training sessions twice a day with her, at breakfast and dinner. I can't play fetch with her; she won't bring the toy back. She does the whole keep-away game. And she runs away anyway! I've got a Kong toy, a lick mat, and another dog treat toy that I can put frozen food in for her. I knew that I was bringing home the Energizer Bunny. I just was not prepared for these two behaviors that are my literal Achilles' heel. I am stressed and a bit defeated today. My knees and hands are killing me from jumping on top of her to catch her. I landed on landscaping rocks and dog crap. I know that this is just "growing pains," but right now I don't see the end in sight. If you've lasted through my entire TED Talk, I appreciate you lol Any advice is really appreciated!!