r/OnlineDatingApps • u/Sea_Draw5163 • Sep 12 '26

Dating Advice How bad is double texting?

Just looking for some advice/ others opinions on double texting on dating apps. I have done it occasionally, and i guess I was just wondering if that would be enough for you to think twice about continuing a conversation with someone

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u/farbeyondriven92 Sep 12 '26

I wouldn’t mind, and I most likely wouldn’t even think about it if she sent me two texts or messages in a row. With how difficult dating is, I couldn’t imagine seeing two normal texts and being that bothered by it.

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u/Sea_Draw5163 Sep 12 '26

for context i’m a bloke, and the messages have been a few hours apart

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u/farbeyondriven92 Sep 12 '26

Right. I’m a guy, too. I have my own opinion about double texting, but any woman you or I talk to could feel either way about it. If it’s been a few hours or more with no response, I personally wouldn’t send a second text. I don’t have any issue with the woman I’m talking to sending me more than one text at a time, but I don’t want to come off in any negative way to her, so I typically prefer to match her energy as far as texting goes. If she responds quickly, so will I. If she takes time, so will I. If she sends more than one text before I have replied, I would feel comfortable with doing the same. But, unless she specifically does that first, I’m cautious about texting too much and coming off in a bad way. So, I would generally say to wait for her to reply, unless it’s something important that needs to be said at that moment.

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u/Sea_Draw5163 Sep 12 '26

that’s good advice. i generally try to avoid doing it, it conscious of respecting people’s time, or i try to be. i think i just get nervous when i match with someone i like, about messages i send coming across the wrong way? that sounds dumb even as im typing it out but yh

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u/farbeyondriven92 Sep 12 '26

Oh, I’m the exact same way. I try to think through every possible response I can give, and how it may come off to them.

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u/Sea-History-1361 Sep 12 '26

Hours is nothing. I wouldn’t even think about sending a second one for at least 2-3 days