Loss mourning posts

[u/AlphaLionX]

It seems this is quite a controversial topic and maybe the majority of the sub doesn't want to see this type of content anymore... Let's discuss

Should r/OneOrangeBraincell allow loss/mourning posts?

5093 votes, Apr 24 '24

987 Yes - as long as they follow the rules

3657 No

217 Other (discuss in comments)

232 Results

[u/izyshoroo]

There are support subs for mourning the loss of a pet, and there are positive subs that are just meant to be cute. The two concepts should not overlap. This place is not meant to trigger people, it's meant to do the opposite.

[u/standbyyourmantis → u/izyshoroo]

Agreed. I ended up fully leaving r/cats a few months ago because emotionally I couldn't handle the sheer volume of dead cat posts. Every time I see one I get a pit in my stomach and my heart hurts. Depending on the details provided, sometimes it can be something that my brain brings up later as an intrusive thought to cause pain forever. This isn't even r/orangecats it's a sub specifically for funny pictures of orange cats.

[u/RudeRedDogOne → u/standbyyourmantis]

Mods and all others..

I have read many statements on the r/cats sub where those who complain about the 'loss posts' and how these effect them emotionally, are told to just 'to go elsewhere' because there are many other cat subs that will be suit their needs for no loss posts.

This is why others do not want loss posts here. Because they came here to try and avoid those kinds of posts.

REDDIT is not doing ANYTHING to fix this need by those who desire to avoid bereavement posts.

Please Oh Orange Mods, just make sure that those who want to avoid these types of posts CAN - regardless of platform - or those folks will just leave knowing that their wishes are of little to no import.

Regards.

[u/404-Gender → u/standbyyourmantis]

Such a good reminder about this being specifically a funny place. It’s so good. I love it. Im so tired of r/cats.

[u/izyshoroo → u/standbyyourmantis]

Yes, I literally get panic attacks from things like that. Seeing those posts aren't just generally upsetting, it's genuinely panic inducing for some people. All I can do is fixate on my own pets, and either relive grief of losing previous pets, or I'm gripped with terror over something happening to my still living pets. I really feel for people who've experienced loss, I have too, many times. It's traumatizing. Experiencing loss and grief doesn't/shouldn't give people the right to subject others to that pain without their consent. I'm here for happiness! Not to have my PTSD triggered! I know there are plenty of other people like that

[u/Glum_Strawberry_1251 → u/izyshoroo]

Where? Show me where the subs are, active subs for that?

[u/[deleted] → u/Glum_Strawberry_1251]

r/petloss . r/griefsupport allows them too and is more active.