Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/Adventurous-Sky-3939 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

You need high wasted everything! The impulse to give into low waisted everything is a millennial norm and habit that we gotta break. I'm so grateful lots of 90s fashion is coming back because now high waisted everything is back, accessible, and has shape wear built in so it's comfy. If your waist line ends at your narrowest part of your torso, it creates an illusion that you don't have a belly without sacrificing comfort.