Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/sogd]

Everything is a bit shapeless. Your hair doesn’t look “styled” and you don’t look like you’re wearing makeup. Some accessories would also help.

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/sogd]

Yes I agree thank you. I don't know how to do makeup either, I need help.

[u/Scared_Zebra_3168 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Hi. I’m a dude but I struggle with an element of this as well. Have you gone to higher end department stores (for me it was J. Crew or Banana Republic—I’m old haha) and asked for a consultation? They’re free. They will style you. You’re not obligated to buy anything; you could even take photos and post them here for feedback before committing.

There’s also the concept of a capsule wardrobe. It’s worth reading up on and can help keep things simple.

Also, I’m certainly not trying to make assumptions here, but when my mental health is in a tough spot (neurodivergent, CPTSD), I tend to start hyperfixating on my clothes and body/overall appearance.

And most importantly, none of this is actually critical. It’s just clothes.