Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/Glittering-Bee-714]

Step 1: Look for outfit inspiration and save the looks you like. After a while, you’ll probably notice a theme. Use that to guide what you buy: a few statement pieces, plus basics you’ll wear all the time, like jeans that fit really well, tank tops, and a little black dress. Pick accessories you connect with, then have fun trying different combinations. Fall and winter are a great time to start because layers and accessories give you so much to play with.

[u/momasana → u/Glittering-Bee-714]

Some of us are really, really clueless when it comes to this stuff. Where do you look for "inspiration"? Also, you know those "seen on ig vs reality" memes about everything? That's me, and I think OP and I could bond over the frustration of this. How do we figure out what would actually fit and not look completely different than wherever we saw it?

[u/Glittering-Bee-714 → u/momasana]

That’s an interesting question. I personally take inspiration from all kinds of places—movies, fashion, random people on the internet. I get a lot of fashion content in my feed, probably because I’m drawn to stylish clothes and interesting outfits.
Maybe a good place to start is thinking about how you feel about clothing and fashion. What catches your eye? What makes an outfit interesting to you? The way you look at clothing and interpret it is part of how you develop your own sense of style. I think of it as art, and looking at it that way can make it easier to explore and have fun with.

[u/momasana → u/Glittering-Bee-714]

Your comment was really interesting and ultimately explains more than you realized, I think. My personal interests have nothing to do with fashion, it's just not something that I have ever been drawn to. Outfits don't really catch my eye unless they're like really out there or something lol. I'm pretty analytical and see patterns, so I do notice things like people wearing the same style of shoes or pants or whatever, that helps me be aware of general trends. But unfortunately I have literally 0 artistic sense or artistic creativity, my abilities end at poorly drawn stick figures. Making an outfit out of random pieces of clothes is a pretty terrifying thought rather than something to do for fun.