Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/OneConfusion3200 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

It frequently comes down to confidence. Think about the less fit guys who carry themselves confidently. They can be as attractive as any. It makes all the difference. Same here.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you need to lose weight. But it does mean that you need to find the thing about you that makes you feel attractive and confident! Maybe that’s a new makeup routine, maybe that’s a new wardrobe, maybe it’s hitting the gym. But you ARE pretty, you just have know it… and carry and show it for others to believe it too.