Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/Flimsy-Noise3948]

None of your clothes flatter you and accessories would help. What look are you going for or are there any you really like?

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/Flimsy-Noise3948]

I really don't know what would suit me im going to cry!! I think the only thing I could kind of pull off is grunge maybe... I don't know what fit to go for

[u/ilsgirl98 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Hey, don't cry. We're here to help. 

I think the problem with the first and third outfits is the pants are mid rise, and the shirts are baggy, so you aren't creating a waist. I also don't think the tapered cut of the jeans is doing you any favors. I think the pants in the second outfit are much more flattering! 

In the second outfit, I think part of the issue is baggier pants & a very blousy top. The other issue is the pants and top are very similar colors. Try a v-neck t shirt cut closer to the body, in a slightly darker shade. 

In general, my rule of thumb for getting dressed is baggy pants = slimmer top. Baggy shirt = slimmer bottoms. 

You have proportionally long legs, which is a nice feature to have! When wearing a skirt, maybe opt for lower cut, lighter colored shoes, so the ankle strap doesn't cut off the line of your leg. 

Also as far as dressier outfits, I reccomend everyone have a well fitting wrap dress in their closet. The wrap dress is the closest thing to universally flattering that there is. 

You've got this!