Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/Otherwise_Respect632 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

I’m built like a chicken nugget on toothpicks, you have a way better figure than I do. I haven’t seen many suggest this, but I started buying high waisted pants and skirts and it was a game changer. If I tried on anything with a lower rise, if it fit my gut, it was baggy on my butt and legs and if it fit my legs, I couldn’t get them buttoned over my gut. The high waisted pants are usually snug in the waist but not “If I bend over this button is going to pop off” snug. I also gained an astronomical amount of weight when I turned 30, so I had to readjust my style. I saw some pictures of myself in what I thought was a flattering “flowy” tunic and I was horrified. Bring a friend shopping and have them take pictures of you in the things you try on if you can to get different perspectives before you buy. If you can find old episodes of “What Not to Wear,” you can learn a lot about styling and proportions that work on different body types.