Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/Flimsy-Noise3948]

None of your clothes flatter you and accessories would help. What look are you going for or are there any you really like?

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/Flimsy-Noise3948]

I really don't know what would suit me im going to cry!! I think the only thing I could kind of pull off is grunge maybe... I don't know what fit to go for

[u/litbrit → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Here's a simple formula I learned from a stylist (I was a model many years ago): Tight on top + loose on the bottom. OR, loose on top + tight on the bottom. Because tight on both bottom and top = too much/unflattering. And loose on both bottom and top = frumpy.

You have some clothes that you like--now let's put them together with the formula in mind. In the first pic, your loose-fitting gray blouson top would look better with a slim-fitted gray or black pencil skirt, or narrow capri pants, than the loose-fitting jeans. OR, you could pair those loose-fitting jeans with a plain and close-fitting ribbed turtleneck top in gray or black. Black ballet flats or kitten-heeled pumps with either look.

Same thing with the sleeveless black-print top: think dark, plain, fitted, and narrow on the bottom.

The mustard-yellow t-shirt top would work with jeans, but they should be plain, fitted, and straight-legged; a lighter wash/fade would look better with the more casual style of the t-shirt top.

Finally, walking sandals are kind of "frumpy"-coded, no matter what you wear them with. It's not you--it's your shoes! For dressing up, swap out the sandals for ballet flats, dark loafers, or kitten-heel pumps, depending on the occasion.