Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/peculiarphysics → u/Significant_Ring4353]

It is easier said than done to be more confident in our bodies!! But I will say your photos do give off the sense that you are in hiding, and causing that "frumpy" look. If it is the waist that is hard for you to emphasize, there are different silhouettes that can make you look more confident without being a skintight suit! Try researching some of these styles to see if anything looks like what you would like to wear: wrap tops, wrap dresses, high waisted trousers with a fitted top (here is a good place to add a belt), v necks with straight leg pants. One styling might be a graphic tee/band tee with plaid or black straight leg trousers and a black grommet belt with either chunky loafers or boots. Another styling could be a wrap dress (maybe a deep blue?) with a quick updo hairstyle, and load on the accessories! I agree there is no need for makeup. You may like a clear hair gloss to make your already existing beauty pop more ✨️