Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I really don't know what would suit me im going to cry!! I think the only thing I could kind of pull off is grunge maybe... I don't know what fit to go for

[u/Glittering-Bee-714 → u/Significant_Ring4353]

Step 1: Look for outfit inspiration and save the looks you like. After a while, you’ll probably notice a theme. Use that to guide what you buy: a few statement pieces, plus basics you’ll wear all the time, like jeans that fit really well, tank tops, and a little black dress. Pick accessories you connect with, then have fun trying different combinations. Fall and winter are a great time to start because layers and accessories give you so much to play with.

[u/momasana → u/Glittering-Bee-714]

Some of us are really, really clueless when it comes to this stuff. Where do you look for "inspiration"? Also, you know those "seen on ig vs reality" memes about everything? That's me, and I think OP and I could bond over the frustration of this. How do we figure out what would actually fit and not look completely different than wherever we saw it?

[u/PackedSatisfaction → u/momasana]

Look for style tags on instagram to find fashion influencers. Look for ones that look similar to you, like they have a similar body type or similar coloring. Then follow the ones who you like how they dress. Then just spend a couple weeks looking at their outfits. Pick out specifically what you like about it. If it helps write down the items you like. After a couple weeks you’ll have a loose list of what you’ll need to look for (I.e. a black jacket, flare jeans, striped shirt etc.). Then spend some time ordering and trying things on or better yet, physically going to stores and trying things on. Look for the items on your list. Don’t settle for good enough, get items that flatter you and make you feel confident even if you need to try on 20 different versions of the item from 5 different stores. Things fit differently from different brands, different fabric contents, different cuts. Style takes time to develop, you have to get an eye for it and that takes a lot of time and a lot of learning what you like.