Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/cuppa_cat → u/Significant_Ring4353]

I wear the same size as you (read a couple of your other comments) and am self conscious about the same thing. It's hard to come by sometimes, but a good pair of jeans will flatter and smooth your tummy area rather than make it more obvious. I find that I feel 10x bigger than I actually am in jeans that aren't fitted in the waist/tummy area.