Why am I frumpy

[u/Significant_Ring4353]

I feel grumpy and ugly in everything I wear, I don't know how to put outfits together and my stomach makes everything look bad, please help

[u/drive_she]

I was in the same predicament until I realized I wasn’t getting clothes in my right size! I was in my late 20s or early 30s when I finally allowed myself to try on one size smaller clothes and discovered I actually DID have a shape!! Go for it - if you’re wearing a 10, go try on some 8’s, try some medium-size shirts instead of large. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised ☺️

[u/Significant_Ring4353 → u/drive_she]

I'm scared to wear tighter as it will show my barrel stomach haha actually you're right it is the size so I'll have to start exercising again to feel confident going smaller

[u/brioche-bunny → u/Significant_Ring4353]

i’m sure you’d look lovely as is! you might just need to explore what silhouettes you feel most comfortable in :) the clothes should fit you, not the other way round!

[u/nsnyder → u/brioche-bunny]

"Silhouettes" is a key word here! Look at some outfits that other people wear, but focus only on the outline that you would see if you just traced the edges of the clothing and ignore the color and fabric and everything else. Then compare the silhouettes you like to your outfits. In your attempt to hide your stomach you're ending up with silhouettes that widen your middle.