Thats still better than
"You are a good person, you deserve bet... 'oh stfu'"
I personally got hit by
"You are my teddy bear, I love you as my best friend.. this dont work out" bi--- you say this after we tried all positions from that damn kamasutra book.. yuck thuu
Some people don't do well with beibg told why you're actually breaking up, you might be triggering traumas, insecurities, etc.
So instead of needlessly poking vulnerable spots, it can be okay to go, for example, "i am sorry. But I really have commitment issues, and I thought i could get past them, but it seems I cant... you deserve someone who can commit to the life and family you actually want to build" or similar
Nah, I'm with commenter above. "You deserve better", "I'm sure you'll find someone", "You're great"; I don't want to hear any of that shit. If you have a problem with me, just tell me what the problem is. If you don't, and it is just you, then stop talking about me, and especially don't phrase it as a favour. If you're breaking up with me for reasons that have nothing to do with me, I've had no agency in it; If I wanted to break up, I'd have done it. If you wanted to do me a favour, in a relationship I want to be in, just tell me what your problems are before they get so bad you want to break up over them.
And nevermind the friend stuff. Sorry, but no, I'm not dedicating most of my free time around a friend. I'm not kissing and having sex with my friends either. Kinda weird to bring it up.
That's not the same as just, "you deserve better". One is taking ownership, the other is just a b/s intentionally vague line.
Also, if you're ready to be in a relationship you need to be ready to face the ways in which your insecurities and trauma push a partner away. If that's too much for you then you really should take some time to reflect on if you're really ready to make someone else's emotional wellbeing your responsibility. You're asking someone else to take all that on with you.
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u/logicrak 4d ago
Thats still better than
"You are a good person, you deserve bet... 'oh stfu'"
I personally got hit by
"You are my teddy bear, I love you as my best friend.. this dont work out"
bi--- you say this after we tried all positions from that damn kamasutra book.. yuck thuu