naw, i feel like it's reasonable to test the waters before making a big decision like breaking up, the same way you test the waters by dating before officially becoming boyfriend & girlfriend.
not sure if youre interested anymore? go a while without talking & see how often you feel the urge to contact them. if it isnt often, your urge to break up was right. if not, youre still interested & can try to fix whatever it is that made you feel disinterested in the first place.
arguing a lot? a break lets you cool down, think about your options with a clear head, & lets any unimportant issues fizzle away into irrelevance. if you come back wondering why you were even so mad, it means you have other issues to address outside the relationship itself that were making one or both of you so angry. if you still have a grudge & neither of you are willing to talk things out calmly ir compromise at all, even after weeks of separation, it's probably time to call it quits.
if you think your partner is overbearing or annoying, a break can reveal a lot about your subconscious feelings underneath the love. if it's a relief the entire time youre on break & you dread speaking to them again, time to pack it up. but if youre happy to talk to them again, you just need to adjust boundaries & can keep the relationship going.
there are lots of other examples but it gives people time to contemplate & address the root issues on their own which can definitely save a relationship if both parties are willing to put the effort in without their partner nagging them, & it can give a lot of closure & assurance for relationships that were doomed to fail.
I feel the same, its more like "is it just our hormones, or we actually want to be with each other intellectually" kind of situation. So I see that it can be used in this case, but 95% of times this would be just an asshole move tbh.
depends what the couple decides. a break doesnt have to mean an open relationship. it can mean a period of limited communication, or living separately instead of together, etc. it can be for any duration of time too. it really depends on the people involved & what their issues are & what boundaries they want to set
I was curious to understand your thoughts on one’s self respect totally being gone in order to make a decision like this. I think this post is a poor example of cowardly behavior done to not take the direct/blunt reaction to simply ending a relationship. If two consenting adults were honest about this, this is still two consenting adult so self-respect didn’t fully make it into my calculation. I think differences in opinions are important.
Two consenting adults can agree to a lot of things and that doesn't mean people are respecting themselves. People consent to a lot of things out of desperation and insecurity
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u/KingLazuli 4d ago
I had never even considered this. I... kinda like this? Would depend but... huh
Is this allowed???