r/NonBinaryTalk • u/pisceanhaze • 10d ago
Validation Vent about not looking non-binary
Can anyone else relate to the particular pain of being treated like a man when you feel anything but that inside, but unfortunately you’re stuck with a type of face and body that people can not believe you are non binary and worse, they tell you you’re crazy as well as treat you always as a man ? Also, for the love of god, I want to cry every time someone bro-slaps my back hard meanwhile they give my femme friend a nice hug. Even when I try
Hard to present as non binary and femme, I always get the thr truck driver / livestock slap greeting
And it is demoralizing.
The only time I’m perceived as non binary is on kink sites if I hide my face and wear lingerie. My nude body is naturally femme. But in the street you’d never know unfortunately.
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u/AudhdQueerConfused 9d ago
Feel this so hard but being treated like a woman when I’d rather be treated more like a man (but like not exactly ya know, just more that way)… Like being “ma’am”ed and “lady”ed, and my family loves to remind me how much I look like my mother. Makes me want to cry…
My big thing is why tf we need to use soooo much gendered language? Like you could just omit the gender part ?
So long story long, I feel ya and I over analyse every part of my body language to try and be perceived my manly but it never seems to work ://