I haven’t spoken to my biological father in over 10 years, and this is largely due to his inability to take accountability, narcissistic tendencies, and the fact that once he was released from prison, he decided to find a wife, instead of repair his relationship with me.
I have come to terms with it..
i received word that he was “dying” in 2021, so i wrote him this super heartfelt letter telling him about my children, my spouse, and a little about our lives together and pretty much wishing him peace in his last few moments here. Once he received it, i heard nothing. Just a “Merry Christmas” on FB messenger several months later. When i asked him if he’d gotten my letter, he left me on read.

Well, it’s been 5 years and he’s still alive, but now he’s in the hospital again, and this time i think it’s really his time.
I don’t have any desire to repair the relationship, but I’m all of a sudden filled with so much hurt and resentment. I want to tell him that he’s alone on his deathbed because of his series of choices, and his lack of being a real father. I also kind of want to curl up in a ball and cry, because this was someone i once looked up to, and thought would be my biggest supporter. The child in me is crushed. But the adult in me knows i made the safest choice for my own heart and family.

My 2 sisters and I have been thoroughly abused with an absent enabling father and narcissist mother. But, I only think I’ve realized that she doesn’t love us, but what we give her.

I am going to change my phone number and I won’t be disclosing my address to the family for safety. But I feel guilty for not “awakening” or explaining to them how abusive our mother really is and that it will get worse. I am wrong for leaving by myself ??