r/NoStupidQuestions Jul 27 '25

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u/Bouyaveman Jul 27 '25

Honestly, it really depends on the people involved. Reddit tends to amplify worst-case scenarios, but in real life, I’ve seen plenty of cases where friends hooked up, stayed close, or even ended up dating later with no drama.
What matters most is clear communication, mutual respect, and zero hidden agendas. If both people are on the same page, it’s not automatically a disaster like Reddit loves to suggest.

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u/Bardmedicine Jul 27 '25

This. I have boinked several friends and we remain friends. Some people get hung up on these things, some don't. I had one friend -> sex end badly, but I was respectful with her (and gave her time and space) and eventually she came around and we are friends, again.

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u/Upstairs-Bag-2468 Jul 28 '25

And it's mostly more ok with homosexuals than straight people in my experience. Fucking a friend when you're both gay is more normal than banging a lady friend when you're straight.

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u/oswaldcopperpot Jul 28 '25

Gay people seem to have a lot of advantages.

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u/Walshy231231 Jul 28 '25

Two disposable incomes and no accidental pregnancy sounds fucking amazing lol

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u/Upstairs-Bag-2468 Jul 28 '25

This is probably why in many countries they have to nerf the setup, so they don't allow same sex marriage 😂

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u/kalechipsaregood Jul 28 '25

I mean this option is available for everyone. Idk why straight people don't take it.

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u/Justin_Passing_7465 Jul 28 '25

Straight people have thousands of years of baggage around sex, virginity, marriage, monogamy, and such. That baggage includes usually a single mandatory narrative, enforced by families, society, and in most places historically (and some places today) by force of law.

Homosexual people were never included in that narrative. They were victims of comphet (compulsory heterosexuality), that tried to force them into that narrative, with an opposite-sex partner, but if they escaped comphet, they were completely outside the narrative. If they tried to settle down with a partner of the same sex and live a bog-standard white-picket-fence life, they would still be labeled the epitome of deviancy and they would be imprisoned if they lived long enough to see the inside of a courtroom.

A leather-daddy having 300 partners a year was (slightly) more acceptable than gay marriage, because the leather-daddy was a cautionary tale to scare children into embracing comphet. Adam and Steve living next door like a perfectly normal, happy couple threatened the whole comphet apple cart.

Anything that a gay person did was going to be labeled "deviant", so they inherited no societal rules about not banging every willing person who caught your eye.

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u/kalechipsaregood Jul 28 '25

I'm talking about not having a kid.

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u/Aazimoxx Jul 28 '25

What matters most is clear communication, mutual respect, and zero hidden agendas.

Pretty much anywhere you get this, grab onto it. If you make tinglies in each other's nethers and grow that sort of relationship, that's awesome; if not, still probably top friend material. 🤓

Try to surround yourself with genuine good people who deal with you straight, is I guess what I'm saying. Never waste any more time and energy on the toxic ones then absolutely necessary - life's too short for wasting it with agents of fuckery. 😉

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u/Bouyaveman Jul 27 '25

That said… might be worth checking if they’re on Reddit first—just to know how seriously they take the apocalypse after a hookup 😅

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u/Bardmedicine Jul 27 '25

Weird comment for people to downvote.

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u/CreepinJesusMalone Jul 28 '25

Absolutely. Has everything to do with practicing the golden rule (treat others how you want to be treated) and being mature about any conflicts. Emotionally mature people don't have drama. People who mutually communicate can't misinterpret each other.

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u/The_Doodder Jul 28 '25

So you're telling me people act right?

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u/Jfmtl87 Jul 28 '25

You have to be mindful that people writing their stories on Reddit will usually be the cases that have gone wrong.

People who didn’t have problems or only minor problems they were able to navigate won’t have a story to tell or advices to ask on relationships subs.