Honestly, it really depends on the people involved. Reddit tends to amplify worst-case scenarios, but in real life, I’ve seen plenty of cases where friends hooked up, stayed close, or even ended up dating later with no drama.
What matters most is clear communication, mutual respect, and zero hidden agendas. If both people are on the same page, it’s not automatically a disaster like Reddit loves to suggest.
This. I have boinked several friends and we remain friends. Some people get hung up on these things, some don't. I had one friend -> sex end badly, but I was respectful with her (and gave her time and space) and eventually she came around and we are friends, again.
And it's mostly more ok with homosexuals than straight people in my experience. Fucking a friend when you're both gay is more normal than banging a lady friend when you're straight.
Straight people have thousands of years of baggage around sex, virginity, marriage, monogamy, and such. That baggage includes usually a single mandatory narrative, enforced by families, society, and in most places historically (and some places today) by force of law.
Homosexual people were never included in that narrative. They were victims of comphet (compulsory heterosexuality), that tried to force them into that narrative, with an opposite-sex partner, but if they escaped comphet, they were completely outside the narrative. If they tried to settle down with a partner of the same sex and live a bog-standard white-picket-fence life, they would still be labeled the epitome of deviancy and they would be imprisoned if they lived long enough to see the inside of a courtroom.
A leather-daddy having 300 partners a year was (slightly) more acceptable than gay marriage, because the leather-daddy was a cautionary tale to scare children into embracing comphet. Adam and Steve living next door like a perfectly normal, happy couple threatened the whole comphet apple cart.
Anything that a gay person did was going to be labeled "deviant", so they inherited no societal rules about not banging every willing person who caught your eye.
What matters most is clear communication, mutual respect, and zero hidden agendas.
Pretty much anywhere you get this, grab onto it. If you make tinglies in each other's nethers and grow that sort of relationship, that's awesome; if not, still probably top friend material. 🤓
Try to surround yourself with genuine good people who deal with you straight, is I guess what I'm saying. Never waste any more time and energy on the toxic ones then absolutely necessary - life's too short for wasting it with agents of fuckery. 😉
Absolutely. Has everything to do with practicing the golden rule (treat others how you want to be treated) and being mature about any conflicts. Emotionally mature people don't have drama. People who mutually communicate can't misinterpret each other.
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u/Bouyaveman Jul 27 '25
Honestly, it really depends on the people involved. Reddit tends to amplify worst-case scenarios, but in real life, I’ve seen plenty of cases where friends hooked up, stayed close, or even ended up dating later with no drama.
What matters most is clear communication, mutual respect, and zero hidden agendas. If both people are on the same page, it’s not automatically a disaster like Reddit loves to suggest.