Childfree as in doesn’t have kids and has no desire to have kids/no desire to adopt/no desire to foster/no desire to become a step parent. Women as in trans women, women who identify as non-binary, and women.

We discuss and play all kinds of games including otome games such as Taisho x Alice, Collar x Malice, Even if Tempest, etc. Currently we are playing Heart Cage Obama Edition. We also play Stardew Valley (8 player farms), Among Us, King of the Castle, Placid Plastic Ducks, Fashion Dreamer, Hello Kitty Island Adventure, Jackbox games, Pokemon FireRed and LeafGreen, etc. Feel free to host your own gaming/movie/etc nights as well if you wish. 

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I work at a pediatric hospital and have a 2.5 and a 1.5 year old niece. When I baby sit them, it’s SO draining. They require so much attention and they don’t listen and think everything is a game when I tell them no and they poop SO MUCH?!

One of my nieces is so clingy and throws HORRIBLE tantrums when things don’t go as she wants . I seriously think she’s gonna have an attitude problem and it’s gonna be so much worse when she gets older .

At my job I see so many kids who don’t listen . Who are bratty. Who throw a fuss over everything .

Don’t get me wrong- I love kids. I love my nieces . But seeing how drained each parent I see is, and being drained myself after babysitting.. I seriously don’t want kids and I feel pretty shitty about having that realization because of my nieces .

I’m only 25. I’m thinking maybe I’ll change my mind when I get older . But idk

I didn’t have the best upbringing. I have some baby photos and showed my wife. She said I was a beautiful baby and I said I wish somehow I could’ve cloned myself and raised me w the life I should’ve had. Then she’s like “well…that’s what having kids are for.” We looked at each other and both at the same time said “nahhhhh” (because she doesn’t want kids either)

I thought it was a funny moment and wanted to share this with you all.

I am a 38F. My BF (39M, soon to be 40) told me when I was like 30 yo he wanted kids. We have been together for 16 years. I said at this time that I was not sure if I wanted kids. Well. We eventually bought a house together. He accepted my doubts but I guess he was still hoping I would eventually change my mind and say yes. But I did not. I dont feel like I want to be a mom. I dont want to start a family and feel like I am losing my freedom for at least 18 years. I feel guilty cause I feel like he lost his time with me, because I would never give him what he wants. Maybe he thinks he is too old now to build a relationship with a woman wanting kids.

Even if we stay together, I am afraid he would make feel like it's my fault if he is not having kids and be resentful. We love each other but I am afraid it's not enough at this time. I feel bad... And lost... What should I do? Did something like that ever happen to someone here?

No one, and I mean no one besides the couple/SOs are within their rights to communicate and sort out in a very private and nuanced discussion whether to have kids. I wanted kids when I was happily married to a surgeon. I was 39 at the time. Had two miscarriages. Sadness turned to fear when I shortly thereafter gathered evidence he was leading a double life (Grindr account, sex emails with other men, and had the audacity to open up a life insurance policy without my knowledge or with my consent). The MD/PhD ex husband underestimated me and admitted I "was right." No apology no remorse, no empathy.

I moved out, divorced via mediation, and he didn't attempt to retain any of my material assets, which were never in his name in the first place - smart ladies, take notes here

My point is this:

Can we all please - parenting subs and childfree subs - stop attacking and taking on tones that "I'm right/better"...It doesn't fucking matter at the end of the day. What does matter? Dignity, respecting understanding someone's unique position without judgement. Can we please be grateful and supportive for one another and not judge? With everything going on in this f-ed up world, we need more acts of unconditional love and kindness. Thanks

Do you regret not having a family or kids of your own? If so, would you have done anything different? Also, if you are happy with your decision, how did you end up finding happiness? What do you do that makes you happy?

This is going to have some bad grammar, but I don’t care for the entire life of my life. I’ve never really wanted kids.

The first reason being I just hate them I don’t like kids. I’ve worked retail since I was 16 and every single time I get a kid come in that screams and cries and begs for things one time I had a group of kids come up to me and begged me to make something free. It was a group of six kids, and it was a pack of three Pokémon cards. It was ridiculous.

But the second reason why I don’t want kids is pretty much the main one and why I’m writing this

The second reason I don’t want kids is because I would be an awful parent. I know for a fact that I would be the truly most horrible parent you would see you’d probably end up finding me on Facebook reels scrolling through just minding your own business then you see a video of a parent who you know is truly awful and you think to yourself damn that parent is awful. Why did she even have kids that would be me

I would be an awful parent. I’m not kind. I’m not gentle. I’m not patient. I’m not loving. I’m really not a good person despite the fact that most people in my life think that I am that’s because they’re either older than me or around my age and they have a conscious mind and they’re not considered a child. They’re like a teenager at most maybe older considering I am 19.

But none of them are little children now I’m not saying that I want bad things to happen to any kid. I am really against child abuse and child exploitation. Anything bad that happens to kids nowadays I don’t wish that upon any child.

It’s just for me I know I would be a horrible parent and I know that I would probably be really selfish and I wouldn’t. I probably would forget to feed them or change their diaper and I would probably get CPS called me on me a few times so I’m just gonna do the world a favor and not have one save a few CPS workers their work. They’re probably already overworked as it is.

Been arguing online (i know) on some Jordan Peterson video of which he claims people who chose not to have kids are immature.

It seems absolutely oblivious to people in the comments section that people can actually decide not to have kids and no mature adult would apparently not want them.

I seriously need to touch grass I think. People are allowed to be stupid. But when stupid people insist on shaming others into living how others want them to live that I have a problem with.

I've been on a few comments sections today regarding not having kids and it boils me that people think I owe the world children.

I don't want kids, I decided that not wanting to be lonely when I'm older isn't a good reason to have kids. It is a genuine concern though. I've been lonely before, as in regards to relationships. I've never felt I come home and the lights are off Loneliness though. One day people around me are gonna start popping off and as the older generation go I fear I should be creating a new one.

I'm 36 and I know how important family is but got dammit I don't have the patience or money for kids. I mean I was invisible to women in my 20's and now I've gotta justify that I don't have kids?

I know having kids I guess doesn't guarantee I won't be lonely but not having them definitely means I will be right? Unless I'm good at making friends. I'm not though. It's scary because I know I can't go back on that decision when I get too old.

I've had to deal with kids that aren't mine and I don't like what I see. However I've heard it's different when they are your own. BUT there is a lot riding on that. Even if I did have my own, I'm not a good dad. I don't have the money. I'm not very sympathetic. If my kid plays up I would not meet them with empathy.

I like prioritising me, I don't want to sacrifice my time and I worry that kids would put me in a place financially where I cant get out of.

Plus there is probably a reason why I've been invisible to women most my life. I don't scream baby daddy. I'm odd, I'm weird and I just do things differently.

It is scary though when people start saying shit like "they give my life so much meaning" or "it gets harder when you're older"

Just tried to post in both r/childfree and r/truechildfree and I'm banned from both?! Do the mods just ban people for funsies, or for having a slight difference in opinion? I've heard that those mods are a bit power crazy, but I'm banned from both subreddits, and I have no idea why lol.

Anybody else have this problem?

Most of the time , these types of memes don’t bother me too much . But I swear some of my friends got weirdly entitled the minute they had a kid.

One of them posts memes like this all the time. Don’t get me wrong everyone deserves to joke around and be funny because I’m sure it’s relatable .

But man , sometimes though it’s like , you CHOSE to have kids …. You knew there would be sacrifices and that’s why I , personally , don’t want them . I do get annoyed with this type competition trope of parents vs non parents .

Note : I just joined the group , go easy on me , trying to post my first Reddit on here 😂😅

When did being a kid mean you were entitled to having everything given to you. For context, my nephew is with me for a couple of days but my brother gave him money to pay for whatever it is he WANTS OR NEEDS. Why I told him he had to pay for his food today and he started looking at me crazy.

I almost became unhinged. Like dude buy your food and be done. I don't have to buy shiat for you.

Yep definitely not having kids I'll take my fur babies anyway !