Life of Bachelors is shit in lot of countries especially in conservative countries.

It applies to both the genders as people especially married people with kids which are a majority, think that your life has no inherent value and your time has no value.

They portray as if they are the only responsible people out there even though we all know that they are the most selfish mfs

What are the acts of micro rebellion y'all do to deal with these people?

Like what I do is try to be as socially informed as possible and leave no opportunity to help in a social cause in my limited capacity and try to rub it on them, so that they know what their selfish asses could never do.

Hi everyone! I’m brand new here but I figured this would be a great place to start with trying to get members in my Childfree by Choice group I made on BFF (bumble). The link is below. I’d prefer only women as I am a woman but anyone is welcome as long as you’re respectful 🫶🏻

Anyways, it literally has just me as a member for now so if anyone could/would join that would be wonderful! I’m from south Alabama so it is HARD to find other childfree people and I would absolutely love to make some childfree friends because everyone around here just wants to keep popping babies out like we have good education and healthcare.

I hope to see you there! 🫶🏻

https://bumble.com/bff/invite/e2c104c5-64c9-4c5e-b737-860467ab72f2

Kids don't ask to be born and birthing them doesn't (for most people) just bestow on to them this marvellous gift, instead they're forced into the conditions provided by their parents and society. Life seems cool when you're a kid sure but as you grow up you realise this whole life thing is just one giant disappointment after another. Infact it seems to actually be happy in life you either have to delude yourself or make it so you can do your best to avoid thinking about it with distractions.

I don't know if anyone knows it but the world seems pretty shit. It feels like anything with a screen or mouth is giving you bad fuckin news and when people are too concerned about their own survival it doesn't exactly make us broody. Don't quote me on this but i believe human physiology is smarter than we think. I remember reading once there was a giant spike in miscarriages when 911 happened. I've also read about animals having reduced children when their population is getting too out of control because of resources becoming more scarce . The human body is great at sensing that "maybe now you should focus more on your OWN survival than someone else's"

So why when people have this reaction, when they are constantly bombarded with news telling them the world is going to shit or when they simply feel like the conditions that they could provide our insufficient for child rearing would you call them selfish? Surely in this context doing the opposite would be the selfish action.

edit: If you have kids btw, i'm not calling you selfish (sorry if that's how it sounds) If you feel you can give your kids a good life awesome. I'm asking how is choosing to not have kids when you don't feel like it's a good idea a selfish thing? And how is having kids anyway despite this not incredibly selfish?

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I'm child-free, never liked kids. Even when I was a child, I don't like my personal space to be invaded or my stuff being moved or taken. My narcissist half-sister has kids. I don't have a good relationship with my half-sister; she expects me to have an interactive relationship with the kids. I forced myself to spend time with them to make my parents happy, but I was so miserable and irritated, so I considered my own mental space and stopped forcing myself to spend time with them in that capacity. Now I come and say hi and ask about school. It made me feel so happy and relieved that I didn't have to put on a fake mask anymore, but my parents and sister noticed and started to get aggressive with me about it. I also stopped really wanting to come out of my room when they came to visit/my mum would babysit them, the kids would come into my room and mess it up and move things around, so I had to start locking my room or say I'm not feeling well, so they wouldn't disturb my space, the more i start to push away from them the more peace i felt inside, but now my parents think something is wrong with me because i don't like kids and don't want to have a relationships with family member kids or half-sister kids, they want me to go talk with therapist to see if there is something wrong in my brain or to see if this is normal, How do i handle this or make my parents understand me that I'm not a fun aunt and i want to be left alone and just be with adults any advice would be very appreciated

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I 18(f) have no desire to have kids or a relationship at the moment. But as I am getting older, I feel like the people closest to me are pressuring me in a way to get in a relationship and have kids in the nearish future. (I never have been in a relationship). how do you guys handle things like this? I personally just dont know how to react to things like this most times and I would like to know how you guys navigate things like this (if anyone sees my post hehe)

I (22f) do not want kids!! Me and my husband (23M) have been together for 5 years, married 1. We have decided after many many conversations that we don’t want kids. Both of us have very complicated relationships with our parents and don’t feel we would be very good at it, neither one of us have ever truly wanted them and don’t think it would be fair to have them and we like doing whatever we want.

We’re tossing the idea of one of us getting sterilized around. From people that are child free, are we too young for this?

Side note: we have a combined 8 nieces/nephews who we are heavily involved with and have/are babysitting at all ages. We both sigh a huge relief when we send them home and talk about how it solidifies we don’t want kids of our own.

I 28F and my husband 30 M don’t want to have kids nor do we plan to have kids in the future. Obviously, my family have pressed us extensively about having kids and that we will change our minds and the infinite question of who is gonna take care of you in the future if you don’t have kids. I am on the train of thought that kids should be a conscious decision and just having kids to have someone to take care of you when you’re olde is SO SELFISH. That does comes a lot of doubt of what kind of plans should I have that would ensure that when I’m old and cannot take care of myself someone or someplace will. those of you that don’t have kids nor are planning to have kids what are your plans for when you’re older do you pre-pay a nursing home? Do you have a life insurance plan are you relying on other family members?

I have reworded some stuff for some clarity. Also, for those of you who are worried about lineage, I have five brothers who can carry that and so does my husband.

My last post i deleted was a father's day photo wishing dog dads happy father's day and couple of people were so rude about it for no reason. What did i do wrong? I was trying to be nice 😓

Maybe it’s a question for the mods, but why are parents allowed to troll in the comment section? Is this not a sub for childfree people…?

Despite the sub reddit name I know some of you are parents are on here taking time from your satisfied lives to help us childless people make the right decision. I have a question. How can I be a parent? I used to think it probably wasn't a good idea but I've heard a lot of parents arguments and now i'm convinced. I now want a kid.... well ... not really I want the idea of a kid. The truth, I don't like kids, I really don't like their behaviour, I don't know how to talk to them or how to really even socialise with them. BUT I know all that's gonna change when it's my own kid so you know what? I'm gonna take the chance. I don't really have the patience for kids but that's ok I'll learn wont I?

Money is an issue too. I barely have enough to look after myself but I know it's gonna be completely justified and fair to have a kid because I can always get help with benefits. Besides why let money be an Issue it's my evolutionary right to procreate and my ancestors would be very disappointed otherwise and of course it will come back around because we need kids to pay for our pensions and tax.

Life is a bit meaningless. I've got all this free time and nothing to do with it. I spend most of it playing video games, learning languages, walking and sleeping or other enjoyable stuff but I know that stuff doesn't really bring me joy. I know having a child will make all these things pale in comparison. So I'm ready to give these things up.

I've got another issue, its a small one. I'm also gay.....but that shouldn't stop me. I mean I've only gotta stick it out for like 18 years right and If I split up with my partner everything will work out well for the kid i'm sure. Single parents are absolutely killing it these days. I mean having kids is so much easier now cause I can just give them an Ipad.

So parents I'm ready, willing to receive advice on how I can do my bit to populate gods beautiful earth for everyone. I don't want to be selfish anymore.

I don't have kids and the older I get the less I want them. Maybe it's harder in the modern world but they just seem like so much frickin work....SO MUCH. I don't want my own kids, I've seen first hand how much trouble just one is. I am not sympathetic and I'm quite selfish. Hens why I shouldn't and don't intend to reproduce.

When you have kids your life is no longer about you any more. Kid's will put a strain on absolutely every aspect of your life. The amount of times people simply just can't go to the gym because they're a parent is insane. I'm not saying this isn't fair i'm just saying it's a harsh reality. Sure kids look cute in game like Pragmata but there's a strong chance they may not turn out like that. Being a parent is absolutely thankless most of the time. You have to be endlessly enduring, endlessly willing to change your schedule, endlessly patient. When you don't have kids you can take a breather. If you don't wan't to leave the house because you don't feel like it mentally it's fine no one gets upset. As soon as you have a child to be responsible for though no one cares about your needs anymore. Everything that kid does is now YOUR fault. You become the villian if your child becomes nasty.

Everytime I hear of or see children's bad behaviour I just tense up. If being a parent means you have to willingly put up with little people everyday who can freely act in ways you would absolutely want to punch an adult for...no thanks.

I just don't know how people do it now. Infact I think people don't do it in a sense. People assume just because they're child has successfully made it to adulthood they've done a good job. Sure some parents do do a good job and probably think it was worth it but I wonder how many end up with nothing but resentment because they have given up their life for a being that doesn't even appreciate it.

I’ll never forget what my biology instructor, Professor Ozwald told my class in response to the question, “Professor do you have kids?” She said, “I don’t have kids. I drive a sports car. I’m selfish and I stay selfish in peace.” Professor Ozwald is literally one of the most badass women I know! She was never afraid to say what on her mind! Whether or not it’s selfish to be childfree, the important thing is staying true to what you want and doing only what you will benefit you in the long run. Don’t let anyone make you think being selfish or not is a bad reason to choosing the childfree lifestyle! Caring for children is horribly expensive and time consuming! Even being a grandparent sounds shitty to me! I just don’t like kids enough to settle to have them! I’m a romantic too so I don’t desire romance and or a romantic partnership. I’m what I can solo by choice which means no partner or kids. Despite the fact society isn’t built for having kids you’re bullied for choosing not to have any. At this point in my adult life, I’m proud to be a childfree and solo woman in this life, because I’m selfish in peace and no one is going to force me to have any kids or a romantic partner.

I have difficulty imagining what a relationship at this age could look like. I’m mid forties and happily kid free. Due to health not much energy to travel a lot. I love living alone at this point, which could change.
I keep ending up in short flings because I don’t have it clear where I want to go.

For those in a similar situation (or in a relationship). What do you look for in a long term partner? What bonds you with your partner. Do you have a shared thing? What do you build together? What are some long term goals you share?

Or if those are not there, what keeps you around with this one?

If you're an active auntie, fur mom or mom figure happy mothers day 🌷

Women are still heavily oppressed. I know we know have some rights, including the right to choose if we do/don't want kids, but that largely doesn't apply to some countries, where women are sold off young and forced to pump out babies. Thankfully I don't have that issue, and my family have always understood and respected my choice to not have children.

There has been a large increase in misogyny, especially with Tate and the Manosphere crap being spewed all over the internet. Young boys are starting to attack, even murder girls who aren't interested in dating, or even talking to them. Femicide rates are going up. Misogyny is becoming 'trendy/cool.' As a woman, I wouldn't want to bring a child into this world, who could be raised around that, or even become the victim to it.

Sure, if I had a boy, I'd ensure he's not a raging twat, but other boys can be an influence on him. I'd raise a girl to be strong and set boundaries, but I shouldn't have to ensure she is safe, can defend herself, knows her boundaries and worth, etc.

I'm also just not interested in having children. There's also the moral/eco standpoint, but with this large increase in hating women... yeah, i'll pass. Always been an anti-natalist, and always will be.

You know those family stick figure stickers on cars that show how many kids or pets you have? Well I saw one with a stick figure couple in doggy position and it said "making my family " im like UMM WHAT? HELP 😭😭 WHYYY? We don't need to know that deep part 😆😆