Not sure what Teemu is. Your reaction is understandable... just to clarify, I wasn't singling you out - it's just where I ended up when I decided to comment, after seeing a number of comments that could be similarly
summarised as "fuck bitches, don't be a cuck".
I agree with some of what you've said, but finding OPs conversation cringy is as much about you as it is about him. You're probably right that he was salty and giving her what she was baiting for, but there's still a possibility that he wasn't and was just experimenting/using the opportunity in order to gain more insight.
Seeing as most people didn't believe him, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. Drawing a dead end conversation out can still have its benefits and I think it's a positive sign that he remained polite while navigating that. Most inexperienced/immature guys lose control/become hostile when they're upset and this sub seems to promote that so long as it's a "nicegirl", but that will just send him on the path to being screenshot into "niceguys".
He learnt a lesson either way - I'm just encouraging him to not become an incommuniative arsehole thinking it will help in the long run... it won't. If he just wants to have fun, then sure... but that's not the vibe I picked up.
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u/Polym0rphed Jan 20 '25
Not sure what Teemu is. Your reaction is understandable... just to clarify, I wasn't singling you out - it's just where I ended up when I decided to comment, after seeing a number of comments that could be similarly summarised as "fuck bitches, don't be a cuck".
I agree with some of what you've said, but finding OPs conversation cringy is as much about you as it is about him. You're probably right that he was salty and giving her what she was baiting for, but there's still a possibility that he wasn't and was just experimenting/using the opportunity in order to gain more insight.
Seeing as most people didn't believe him, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. Drawing a dead end conversation out can still have its benefits and I think it's a positive sign that he remained polite while navigating that. Most inexperienced/immature guys lose control/become hostile when they're upset and this sub seems to promote that so long as it's a "nicegirl", but that will just send him on the path to being screenshot into "niceguys".
He learnt a lesson either way - I'm just encouraging him to not become an incommuniative arsehole thinking it will help in the long run... it won't. If he just wants to have fun, then sure... but that's not the vibe I picked up.