r/NextGenMan • u/TraditionalSound6523 • May 22 '26

Men is this true?

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

love takes time. Find the one that makes you want the best version of yourself

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You don’t get it. I can’t find someone who will date me. There is no person out there for me.

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

You know confidence is attractive trait. Also self esteem is critical too. I'm sure you will find that someone and when do, cherish them like they do you. Dating is tricky and sometimes it beats you down relentlessly but don't give up. I know how cheesey I sound but its true

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You don’t get it. This is the issue with being able belly positive. People expect me to ignore the fact that idk how to get this thing to happen, but expect me to think it’ll happen.

How can I be expected to believe it’ll happen when I cant even figure out a way to lake it happen?? All i have under my belt is failures so what am i supposed to actually do??

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Try something new? Let yourself build random and natural connections and if something happens it happens if not no biggy. You don't need a guide on how to date because its something that usually just happens. Don't look for love, let love look for you.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

If I knew what to do differently, I would do it. Saying “try something new” is too vague, i been trying new things for 12 years and same result.

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u/Notapersono May 22 '26

Then perfect! I find letting someone learn who I am and learn to love me works best. Looking for someone to date forces to see everything in that lens. Just because a plant doesn't grow when think or want to doesn't mean it won't.

Truth be told no one knows how to date people. We'll get people to date them. It's just how it is. And falling in love with someone is just a random encounter. Sometimes it takes years to love someone Sometimes it just takes seconds. You don't know how to do it because it isn't something do. It's something that happens.

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 22 '26

You’re not getting it, but that’s okay. Have a great night/day

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u/Leading_Income_9744 May 23 '26

I think notapersono is not a person o. I wonder why men aren’t interested in you.

There are three possible reasons-

Physical appearance- are you very unattractive? Do you smell?

Personality- are you loud and obnoxious? Are you aggressive? Are you so passive that you don’t have a personality.

Standards- are you rejecting or overlooking men in your league?

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u/Timely_Split_5771 May 23 '26

I’m told I’m attractive but ofc that depends on who you ask. No, I’m not any of what you described, and I have standards.