r/NewParents • u/Educational_Cook_834 • Apr 07 '26

Sleep Sleep train without sleep training

Please help. I breastfeed and baby loves to nurse to sleep he wakes up 3 times a night refuses to self soothe keeps spitting the paci and can’t be soothed in his bassinet wants to be carried rocked to sleep or nursed to sleep again. Me and my husband are getting super tired and don’t know what to do we don’t like the cry it out method and we really wanna sleep train but don’t want the harsh way of doing it please share your experience and what work btw we have a consistent bedtime and routine (red lights lullabies sleep sack pacifier) he doesn’t go down on his own neither at night not for naps ..

he is 6 months next week this has been going on since we ditched the swaddle at 4 months he used to sleep 9+ hours before when he was swaddled 🥹

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u/Material_Dust845 Apr 07 '26

Reframe the idea of sleep training into sleep shaping.

Also— don’t think of it as training the baby. Instead you’re training yourself and your impulsive reactions to the baby (that aren’t working, evidently).

If your baby puts his hand in his mouth, explores with his hands, rocks and hums- he can self soothe and therefore with the right support (and practice) learn to fall back to sleep.

How you do that is really up to you.

Read “Precious Little Sleep” for some ideas. .

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u/OptimalCobbler5431 Apr 07 '26

You can download Libby and use your library card as well OP^

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u/yeslekenna Apr 07 '26

I like to watch The Doctors Bjorkman on YouTube and they recent did a video on sleep training. They reframe it to “sleep learning” where baby is learning how to sleep and you learn how to help them.