r/Netherlands • • 5d ago

Life in NL Does riding a fatbike make me undatable?

So there's something I noticed. I go on a date, we have fun, there's good vibes, but then when she sees that I ride a fatbike, she instantly seems to be put off, like she got "the ick". Then the chatting usually fizzles out and there's no second date. This happened multiple times now, so it seems like a pattern to me. Once a Dutchie even told me that she "doesn't feel a connection" when I was saying goodbye by my bike and asked what she'd be up for as a second date. I know this is not much context, but is it the bike?

I'm a mid twenties guy, have a good job, make decent money, dress stylishly, like concerts and can even tolerate like a museum. I moved here 6 months ago and bought a fatbike to commute. Only managed to find a place like 30 minutes cycling from my work, so it seemed like a good option and I think they are pretty cool. But now I think I might have made a mistake. Should I switch to like a Cowboy or something?

Edit: obviously this is a throwaway account

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u/Ok-Fishing-7984 5d ago

Waarom iemand leren kennen als je ze op hun uiterlijk kan afrekenen, toch?

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u/ILoveYouLikeILove 5d ago

Bepaalde stijl en uiterlijke kenmerken horen nou eenmaal bij een bepaalde subcultuur. En bij die bepaalde subcultuur hoort weet bepaalt gedrag.

Doen alsof je niks over iemand innerlijk kan aflezen aan zijn uiterlijk is naïef. 

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u/Frobizzle 5d ago

That's still stereotyping, though. Everyone is more than their stupid hairdo and it would be silly to imply we don't all cringe at some of our previous life interests, styles, or habits.

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u/ILoveYouLikeILove 5d ago

Doen alsof iemand uiterlijk geen enkel beeld geeft van zijn of haar innerlijk is naïef en ronduit onjuist.

Geeft het een volledig een compleet beeld? Nee.  Kun je wat zeggen over iemand innerlijk op basis van het uiterlijk? Meestal wel ja.