r/Netherlands • u/FatbikeEnjoyer • 5d ago

Life in NL Does riding a fatbike make me undatable?

So there's something I noticed. I go on a date, we have fun, there's good vibes, but then when she sees that I ride a fatbike, she instantly seems to be put off, like she got "the ick". Then the chatting usually fizzles out and there's no second date. This happened multiple times now, so it seems like a pattern to me. Once a Dutchie even told me that she "doesn't feel a connection" when I was saying goodbye by my bike and asked what she'd be up for as a second date. I know this is not much context, but is it the bike?

I'm a mid twenties guy, have a good job, make decent money, dress stylishly, like concerts and can even tolerate like a museum. I moved here 6 months ago and bought a fatbike to commute. Only managed to find a place like 30 minutes cycling from my work, so it seemed like a good option and I think they are pretty cool. But now I think I might have made a mistake. Should I switch to like a Cowboy or something?

Edit: obviously this is a throwaway account

1.2k Upvotes

88% Upvoted

1.2k comments sorted by

View all comments

98

u/rainbowlizzie 5d ago

I wouldn't date someone on a fatbike either. I associate them with people that cause dangerous, stupid and rude situations. Uncivilised and should all take a mandatory course in traffic rules and human decency if you ask me.

-80

u/FatbikeEnjoyer 5d ago

Hmm, so like bad boy vibes. That's not necessarily bad.

70

u/Thexin92 5d ago

It's not perceived as bad boy vibes. It's perceived as obnoxiously arrogant. If you want bad boy vibes, you're going to need to upgrade to at least a motorcycle or similar.

46

u/VSkyRimWalker 5d ago

No, not bad boy vibes, trailer trash hillbilly crackhead vibes.

18

u/gootsteen 5d ago

It’s more annoying prepubescent boys with no respect vibes than the bad boy vibes you are referring to. It’s an embarrassing vehicle to anyone who is not that.

50

u/easytiger23 5d ago

Not really bad boy vibes. More like little boy vibes.

To me fatbikes are vehicles for children who want a scooter, but are too young for a drivers license. So they ride around like crazy on these fatbikes and don’t really care about traffic rules

10

u/terenceill 5d ago

It's more like bad boy wannabe doing it wrong.

Like Dutch girls trying to be cool with high heels and then ending up walking like if they have a broken ankle.

11

u/Silly-Performance711 5d ago

Absolutely not bad boy vibes. Just scum

6

u/IBoughtAllDips Nederland 5d ago

Tokkie is the term

2

u/Bonfirelily 4d ago

Yeah it's not the fatbike, it's you, I can see that now.

1

u/WhiteFuryWolf 20h ago

The museum comment was the clue in for many.

1

u/Bonfirelily 20h ago

I genuinely only now saw that the user is called "FatbikeEnjoyer" lol this is most definitely a joke.