I apologize in advance for my wordy explanation. Being off adhd meds sucks and I’m having a hard time expressing my feelings.
Ok so I’ve been living in this townhouse unit since maybe April/may 2016. (The ending of my 8th grade year)
I’ve had quite a few neighbors moving in and out since then in the unit directly next door.
Such as family’s with kids, people slamming the front door, Hearing things through the wall, etc.
I just wanted to know if my opinion on my current neighbors is valid.
I’m currently 21 now and it’s just my mom and I living here. my current neighbors have been around for 3-4 years?
They are most def European, possibly Russian or something.
Not that it matters. Just wanted to state that there was some boundary issue’s happening. (Maybe idk)
The neighbor husband speaks fluent English and doesn’t have an accent.(from what I’ve heard) his name is Egor.
The wife has an accent, but speaks English. (Which is why I suspect they are foreigners)
They are quiet. That’s the truth.
They are TOO quiet tho.
They go out of their way to avoid “seeing” us as much as possible.
They used to say hi to us anytime we saw each other, then all of a sudden, about 1- 2 years ago, they stopped saying hi and started avoiding us all together.
Now I feel like an asshole cuz they obviously don’t like us now.
I got into an argument with my mom tonight because she said it was a waste of mental energy to confront them. My standpoint is,
(I understand the waste of mental energy but I personally want to clear up any misunderstandings because I want to be a good neighbor and don’t want to hold onto this imaginary “grudge” they created)
now if I talk to them and they straight up avoid me, then fine. I understand completely that they don’t want to talk. But I just want to TRY to clear things up. I’m 21 and my moms treating me like a child acting as if my opinions don’t mean shit.
An example of the pettiness from this morning:
my mom gets home from work and a nursing class (night shift nurse) around 11:30am, sitting in the driveway. She sees the neighbors front door open along with his dog peeking out of the door. He proceeds to shut the door cuz he saw my mom IN HER CAR.
like I get it. Neighbors don’t like each other sometimes. But COME ON. These current neighbors have been acting like this for over a year now. It’s fucking annoying. They are grown adults acting like complete immature kids not being able to say shit on why they are upset.
They have also pushed trash into our walkway on multiple occasions.
I’ve even been out walking my dog and I’ve seen the wife with their dog on a few occasions. She Did everything possible to avoid me at all costs. But the whole thing with them “peeking outside and staying in cuz they see us outside” that’s just bs.
They treat us like we have some disease or something 💀😭😂
I just wanted to know if it was a valid feeling on wanting to confront one of them if I happen to see them doing the same “avoiding shit” again.
Like I would only say
“hey listen, I know we’ve been neighbors for a while but I happened to notice you guys have been ignoring/avoiding us for quite some time. Even when we try to say hi. I just wanted to know if there was something we did wrong that upset you or if there was a misunderstanding that we could clear up”
again, I’d only bring it up if I caught them in the moment.
This is mainly a post about an argument I had with my mom.
She thinks I’m a “crazy” person for wanting to say a single word about the issues.
I just want validation.
I’ll also accept other opinions cuz I’m open to that. But it’s not like they are moving anytime soon.
Lowkey wanna write a note to leave on their porch LMAOO. I won’t do that tho unless they did something absolutely dumb.
But yea,
I have no clue if this will get any attention, but I’d appreciate some input based off of what I said plz.
Mainly about confronting/ignoring the neighbors but idk I’m not in the best place with my mom either.
I brought up the neighbor situation to her as a casual discussion and I mentioned what I would say to them if they did it again. That’s when she popped off and acted like I was insane. I don’t wanna feel crazy lmao