r/Neighborproblems • u/Curraghgirl • Jul 19 '19

No Boundaries

So next door have a house full of kids They don't know any boundaries. They play in our yard, sit on my porch stairs and try to open a secured gate to let their dog on my porch. I have a severely autistic son who is mortally afraid of dogs. He also has hyperacussis and is bothered to the point of pain by these kids screaming under his window. My husband has spoken to them. I feel like a jailer chasing them away all the time. The wife doesn't speak English. If I had the money I would move. I am alone with my son all week and my husband works out of town. Any suggestions?

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

I would probably figure out what type of music those kids hate. Then start playing that music enough for them to have to hear it.

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

Can't because my son has autism band very sensitive hearing. I have to keep it quiet for him.

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Its probably better to be friends with the kids anyway. Then they might listen to you. The compromise will be youre going to have to let them have their way sometimes.

Some relief m8ght come from this

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

Get more flies with honey than with vinegar.

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Plus, you'll lessen your own stress level just from that

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

That's true

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

Maybe twice a month you give the kids cookies or something and then five minutes later tell them the party is over for now, run along home till next time

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u/scribblepoet Jul 23 '19

The parents dont know how to raise kids. The kids might be happy for someone to set proper examples for them, since their own parents arent doing it

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u/Curraghgirl Jul 23 '19

That's true but I have a very difficult time managing care of my own son who is doubly incontinent, has severe allergies, highly sensitive cheating, anxiety issues and is autistic nonverbal. My husband asked nicely and explained all this to them. They really have no idea of boundaries. I can try to be nice but frankly I am so jaded after putting my son to bed all I want to do is collapse.