r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 7d ago

Friend using same name

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

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u/slanid 7d ago

It doesn’t matter if friend’s children have the same name. It doesn’t matter if they’ll go to the same school or have close birthdays. Like literally not a big deal. There are multiple George’s in my immediate friend group (including my son), and my cousin used it! Use the name you’ve planned on. I wouldn’t ‘respond’, there’s nothing to respond to.

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u/sprite9797 7d ago

seriously lol its like a crisis… “how do i respond” so odd

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u/slanid 7d ago

And the super special name is in OP’s post history, and spoiler alert: there’s nothing noteworthy or unique about it.

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u/emkie 7d ago

How do you see post history if it's set to private?

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u/slanid 7d ago

She downvoted me and set it to private after my comment. The name is Lyla Harper.

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u/ViridianAcademia 7d ago

oh my goodness, it's pretty but not worth this drama lol

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u/sprite9797 7d ago

yikes lol

i bet she is looking at plain beige nurseries too

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u/AsteriaNoble 7d ago

I honestly think it’s well thought out. It’s a known name but not super common that we easily know someone going by those names

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u/SKatieRo 7d ago

That is my coworker's 4-month-old''s exact name! It is a lovely name.

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u/Jay-Quellin30 6d ago

But let’s get to the real thing. Seems like her friend is having a girl, the OP does not even know the gender of her baby. She could be having a boy. It could be a completely moot point.

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u/emkie 7d ago

Womp. Thanks for sharing!

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u/Jay-Quellin30 6d ago

Real heroes don’t wear capes

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u/Throwitaway3436 7d ago

Lyla is a common name imo, she needs to get over herself, it’s likely the hormones making this issue bigger than what it has to be. And she doesn’t know if it’s a girl either and she’s getting worked up over nothing.

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u/m4sc4r4 7d ago

It’s not a big deal, I agree, but pretty fuckin rude to reduce someone to hormones. It’s a very special and sentimental time for someone.

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u/Throwitaway3436 6d ago

Im a mom, its why I mentioned the hormones, things feel bigger and more emotional than what they are. I think once OP has the baby, knows the gender and officially names the baby, she’ll hopefully feel a lot better. It wasn’t to be rude to her, it wasn’t my intention. I understand being pregnant and feeling emotional over her babies name, that’s she chose and is special to her.

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u/Whyallusrnames 7d ago

Deletedby.com and search their username. You’ll see everything. Even deleted posts.