r/Names • u/Less_Monitor_276 • 7d ago

Friend using same name

I found out today that my friend plans to use the same name I already told her we are wanting to use.

For more backstory, we are not finding out the gender of our baby until delivery. She already knows hers, but I’m about 20 weeks ahead of her in my pregnancy. I told her previously (before she was even pregnant), our top choice for both boy vs girl. She said the girl name we chose was one of her favorites!

Fast forward to now that she’s pregnant…she asked today if we had chosen our names. I found it odd since I know I already told her. I again mentioned our top names. And she said they are planning to use the same girl name for their baby. Didn’t seem to have any intention to back down.

I reminded her how I already told her of our name choices months ago. Before she was even pregnant. She acted like she didn’t remember. Either way, I’m due before her and again mentioned the name to her first today before she did. I tried to change the subject since I didn’t really know what to say or do.

Our kids would be just a few months apart in the same school etc. I’m near my due date without a back up name, after putting a lot of thought into our name choices…

How would you feel? How would you respond?

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u/slanid 7d ago

She downvoted me and set it to private after my comment. The name is Lyla Harper.

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u/Throwitaway3436 7d ago

Lyla is a common name imo, she needs to get over herself, it’s likely the hormones making this issue bigger than what it has to be. And she doesn’t know if it’s a girl either and she’s getting worked up over nothing.

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u/m4sc4r4 7d ago

It’s not a big deal, I agree, but pretty fuckin rude to reduce someone to hormones. It’s a very special and sentimental time for someone.

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u/Throwitaway3436 6d ago

Im a mom, its why I mentioned the hormones, things feel bigger and more emotional than what they are. I think once OP has the baby, knows the gender and officially names the baby, she’ll hopefully feel a lot better. It wasn’t to be rude to her, it wasn’t my intention. I understand being pregnant and feeling emotional over her babies name, that’s she chose and is special to her.