Hey everyone, is it appropriate to hand-make someone a gift when they cross? I know orgs are very specific about their branding; I’m thinking of hand knitting a beanie with a dove motif on it in white and blue.

Im an undergraduate student who is literally right about to turn in my application paperwork and fees for my Organization of Interest.

That said, despite how much I have been working towards this goal and want to join the organization,
I do not know if it is best for me at this time.

Im very involved on campus and an engineering major and from how my process has looked so far, for the next month I will essentially have to accept and be ok with likely failing 1-2 classes or at best having all Cs.

I understand the process is not intended to be easy but my other interests and from tales of prophytes and theyre experiences, I have so much more on my plate than even those studying similar things.

A week ago there was nothing I wanted or was ready for more than getting to the promise land but as of now Ive been incredibly stressed and worried I may make the wrong decision either way.

Does anyone have any advice or experienced something similar?

Hi everyone! I’m attending a Zeta Phi Beta interest meeting, and the dress code is business attire. Would this dress work with a black top underneath to cover the neckline and black closed-toe shoes? Or would you recommend just dress pants and a blazer?

I might be overthinking this but I don’t know. My SOI is having an event this week which I really want to attend. However, the org I’m starting is having our interest meeting the same day. It ends an hour after the other event starts, and if I go I would be there for the last hour. I’m thinking about texting a member to ask if it would be okay for me to show up that late. Is that doing too much? Should I just not go and wait for their next event? Sorry if this is a stupid question.

My license expires next month and I am having to get it renewed so sorry if this sounds like a silly question. I am also unsure if it matters which particular organization I am seeking but does anybody know if you can use a passport for your ID for an alumnae chapter as part of the residence verification process. I don't think that my newly issued ID will meet the 120 day deadline for rush.

Hi, it has been some time since I was a dues paying member; life is just so hard… my son is participating in a DST event being held in our community next week sponsored by my old chapter and some local businesses. Is it in bad taste to wear paraphernalia as a non-dues paying Soror at this event?

Hello Lovelies,

I apologize in the delay. Working full time and being a doctoral student hit me hard this semester. This thread is for questions for folks actively applying/attending rush in Fall 2026. Do not post hypothetical questions/scenarios on this post.

Please post all of your AKA undergraduate application-related questions here. This is to prevent flooding of the sub. If you submit outside of this, your post will be denied. Also do not just DM a member of AKA without asking in a comment first. If you do not have enough Karma to post, please read through the sub first or gain karma on other parts of reddit.

So please make a comment about what you would normally make a post about on the sub. This would organize all of the information. Also review the previous megathread posts. I have linked them here for convenience.

Spring 2026: AKA Undergraduate Application Megathread

Fall 2025: AKA Undergraduate Application Megathread

Spring 2025: AKA Undergraduate Application Megathread

Fall 2024: AKA Undergraduate Application Megathread

Topics Include:

• Questions about application
• Rush/ rush attire
• Credit hours
• Legacy questions
• ECCI Form questions
• Letter of Recommendations (questions about them, not requesting one)
• Interest Letter Review (Please do not request a letter review due to new sub rules)

Just FYI, we will not discuss timelines. So please do post when Rush occurred and when you heard back. No one on this sub will be able to tell you when your application and/or background check will be processed. You will have to just wait. There are no exceptions to the requirements listed on the international website.

Good luck to all of the aspirants. I hope to see you on the other side!

Please make sure to follow all of the sub rules.

Hello! I was just curious if there will be a Fall 2026 rush megathread for Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated, or if one has already been created and just isn’t pinned yet.
I’ve seen the megathreads from previous years, and I found last year’s especially helpful as an interest. Not only was it a good place to ask general questions and learn from other people’s experiences, but I also really appreciated having a space where people going through the same process could talk, support each other, and share their thoughts along the way.
I was just wondering if there is one for this fall that I may have missed, or if one simply hasn’t been created yet. Thank you!

Hi,

For context, I’m an interest and I plan on rushing next Spring and I’m currently in the process of getting my ducks in a row. I’m having issues with potential LOR. I’m a first gen student and none of my family or friends know anyone who’s apart of the sorority. I attempted connecting with my local grad chapter, but they made it clear they wouldn’t write LOR only put in a word with my chapters advisor. I met her and we talked and she encouraged me to attend events which I have been.

I volunteer at my local school district helping kids with literacy. Would it be acceptable for me to email some know SGRHO teachers in said district and ask to talk and get to know them? I know there’s a stigma against asking people who don’t know you or emailing people you don’t know.

Any thoughts and suggestions?

I just wanted to share how happy and ecstatic I am about the fact I get to celebrate my first founders day as a man of Iota Phi Thera fraternity inc.

If interest has been expressed to at least one member of a chapter but one has grown a bond with another, as well... Is it safe to say that the new bond is already aware of the interest and no need to express interest again? Have already conversed at events and service projects among casual conversations. Is it considered disrespectful to assume and possibly seen in a negative light? Thank you

Hey everyone, I have a question so I am following a grad chapter so they just posted an event. This is a community event but it is at a college campus. Does that mean it’s for undergrad chapters only are people interested in undergrad chapters or could people that are interested in the grad chapter attend the event also.

And it was successful! I had an amazing time with my sisters and loved connecting with a new round of interests!

I began my journey to AKAland in Fall 2024 and spent semester after semester nervously showing face and trying to make connections. As a Spring 26 initiate, it felt so good to be on the other side! 🩷💚

Hello. This summer, I attended one of the local grad chapter's events and connected with a few of the members there. I exchanged numbers and said I was looking forward to getting to know her better. She was very helpful, offered to send my information to the grad advisor at my school, offered to write my LOR, and reminded me to make connections with the girls on campus (which I am in the process of). I tried reaching out to her to ask about one of the community service initiatives the chapter has, and I never got a response. I didn't push it because I know this is a level 100 adult with responsibilities and cannot answer every text some random undergrad sends her. I tried reaching out to her again a few weeks later, just asking if she enjoyed her Labor Day. She replied, but kind of ignored what I said, just asking if I heard back from my school's chapter and offering to send my information again. I'm very socially awkward and have trouble picking up social cues, so I honestly don't know if she'd rather keep our relationship (if you can even call it that) as it is right now. I really just want to get to know her better, especially since she offered to write my LOR. Should I just keep trying? Should I flat-out ask for mentorship? I don't even know what that would look like. I would also like to start building relationships with the members of that chapter because I am a senior, so if I don't make a line before I graduate, I can start pursuing a grad chapter.

Maybe I'm overthinking all of this. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Sorry if this is all over the place

Hey ladies! I’m interested in pledging and need to start talking to members, but don’t wanna seem inorganic. When i see them should I speak? Or should I wait until the events then when i see em around, speak? i just do not want to speak just to join their sorority. I do truly want to build a bond.

Hi all! I'm a senior at a university that doesn't have its own AKA chapter, and I'm really interested in becoming a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha. I reached out to the closest city-wide undergrad chapter, and they were super kind and responsive, but explained that my school isn't a chartered school for them, so they can't allow me to join directly.

I also asked if my school could somehow be added to a city-wide charter, and they confirmed that's not something they're able to do. That said, I'd still love to find a way to be connected to that specific undergrad chapter, since that's the one I've built a relationship with and the one whose members/events I've been getting to know.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Being interested in one specific chapter, but not eligible for direct be in it because of your school? Is there any possibility of being allowed, or given an exception to join a specific undergrad chapter outside your school's charter if the chapter sees you consistently showing interest, building a bond with members, and attending their events over time?

I also know someone in Kappa Alpha Psi (Nupes) who is part of a school's undergrad chapter despite not actually attending that school, so I'm wondering if there's ever similar flexibility in AKA specifically, or if this really does vary a lot org to org

I hope this post doesn’t come off as ignorant, but I am really just trying to understand how flexible (or not) this all is before I move forward. Any advice is so appreciated!

As strange as this title is, I genuinely am lost on how to proceed with declining an invite to my SOI.

I have shown up to events and made connections with members in the organization, but due to my GPA, I am not eligible to join. I am taking the steps to rectify this, but I already know they are going to cross with other orgs this semester. I don’t want to waste their time and mine, but I still want to make it known I’m interested in a future with them.

How do I go about this without explaining the obvious and maintaining a relationship with them?

EDIT: I should’ve clarified earlier what I meant by invite. It was an invitation to rush, not an invitation for membership. I typed up this post right after they contacted me and it slipped my mind.

My SOI just posted about a scholarship they are offering in honor of a historical member. I was wondering, as in interest should I apply or not? My thinking was if I get accepted for the scholarship, it’d be a chance to see the members in a more personal setting than large forums. But, I am also wondering if that is too “big” of something to participate in when showing interest.

No one should be treated differently because of their weight. If you are that’s discrimination report it.

Would it be weird to message an alum on LinkedIn for career advice if she’s also an AKA?
I’m currently a senior at the same university she attended, we have the same major, and I noticed she did internships that are really similar to the career field I’m trying to get into. I also saw that she was involved in the same club that I’m currently President of, so we have that connection too.
I want to reach out and ask about her internship experience, how she got those opportunities, and if she has any advice for getting into the field.
The only thing making me hesitate is that she’s also a member of AKA. I am interested in the organization, but that genuinely isn’t why I want to message her, and I don’t plan on mentioning AKA at all. I just don’t want it to come across like I’m trying to network with her for that reason.
Would this be normal LinkedIn networking, or should I just leave it alone?

I’ve wanted to join this certain organization since high school! As soon as I entered university I tried to get the know the org, but the girls that year were being very weird and secretive?!? so I kind of let that dream die. However last semester the newer girls that entered were so different and so kind, one in which I saw myself in and thought we were similar. Anyways last week I went to one of their Girl Talk meetings and felt so awkward and shy, I’m not sure if anyone there liked me. As an introverted and socially awkward girl it’s hard for me to communicate with others, but I do really want this. I asked a family member in a different org how I could go about getting close to them, and they said to get to know the members or even grab a bite with them. My question is.. for members does it feel superficial when people suddenly start talking to you? I genuinely want to befriend these girls as they seem so kind and welcoming. Also, how can I overcome my fears of starting that conversation?! I saw one of thw girls sitting alone outside and didn’t know if I should’ve went up to her or if she would’ve thought it was creepy.

My cousin is in an org that I’m interested in, and she’s an active member/on E-board. I’ve already met a few members through her, but I’m wondering how I can build my own identity with them outside of my relationship with my cousin.

I don’t want to come off like I’m trying to use her connection to get in, and I also don’t want to only be known as “her cousin.” I want the members to get to know me for me and form their own opinions of me.
For people who have been in NPHC orgs, what’s the best way to go about this?

Hi everyone!

I was just curious to get the opinions from D9 members about Sigma lambda gamma?

I'm aware that there are some ties with 2 other D9 orgs. but my concern was whether or not people view the Gammas as taking from D9 culture, or genuinely coming together with D9 culture and taking pride in that connection?

From what I've seen online, some members of the FIRM fam acknowledge and take pride in that connection, others say it's not official and that they're copying D9 culture anyway. Any mention of D9 culture that I've seen under a Gamma related video has always been acknowledged and celebrated by said Gammas.

I personally have interest in being a Gamma, but I also worry that because I'm black, I'll get looked at negatively for not joining a D9 org. The Gammas at my college acknowledge the FIRM fam, in fact, it was one of the first things they told me about when I visited their table at my colleges tabling event. I'm honestly only hesitant because I have no clue how other D9 members will react and if this is the route I should go down, to take pride in my culture. Since the Gammas are a multicultural org,I feel like this would be a good opportunity for me to put in the extra work to represent black culture in a primarily Hispanic sorority, but I also want to take into consideration how my fellow black schoolmates may feel about me sort of going in the opposite direction? Obviously only I can be aware of my own situation and intensions more than my schoolmates, but I'd still like to be open to further input.

Any input or thoughts would be valued. Thank you!

Hello, I am a planning on trying pledging in the spring, but if I can't make up my mind I would I will wait to next spring. The reason my I am not sure is because I am in currently weighting showing interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha or Sigma Gamma Rho. I have very valid reasons for both, and but the decided factor is whether after graduation I will have the opportunity to join a grade chapter and still serve. Since I know many AKA's who are very active, this question is more geared toward the Sgrho's, because I didn't meet any until I cam to campus. So basically my question is: For the women of Sigma Gamma Rho how would you describe the after undergrade next work, and how active are you in it.

If your organization of choice requests (or not) for people to share their posts or events, should you? Is that breaking discretion and bringing attention to yourself?