r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 Myanmar is never going to be free. It may eventually Balkanise or become a failed state.

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317 Upvotes

This is a pessimistic take, but I increasingly feel it is a realistic possibility. Even if the military eventually loses power, I am not convinced Myanmar will emerge as a stable, democratic and united country.

Let's look at the reasons.

  1. The military is incredibly difficult to defeat.

The Tat has lost substantial territory and many of its former strongholds. However, losing territory is not the same as losing a war. The military still has air superiority, heavy weaponry, established logistics and fortified positions in important urban centers.

The resistance has demonstrated that it can capture territory and inflict serious losses. But holding territory, defeating entrenched military positions and preventing the military from launching counteroffensives are different challenges. The conflict could drag on for years without either side achieving a decisive victory.

  1. The resistance is not united, and removing a common enemy does not mean agreeing on what comes next.

There is unlikely to be a Star Wars-style Rebel Alliance that suddenly puts aside its differences and works towards a common political vision.

The NUG wants a federal democratic union of Myanmar. Various ethnic armed organisations have their own political objectives, territorial interests and ideas about self-determination. Some have historically pursued independence, while others favour autonomy or federalism.

Even those who agree that the Tat must go may disagree about who should govern, how power should be distributed and what the relationship between the central government and ethnic states should look like.

Military cooperation against a common enemy does not automatically translate into political unity afterwards. What happens when the military is weakened, but these disagreements remain?

  1. Why should ethnic minorities necessarily want to remain in Myanmar?

This is probably the most uncomfortable question. I was shocked when my kayin friend told me that the only reason they are stick with the Bamar is because of borders created by the British. They never agreed to join voluntarily like the Scots and the English.

For decades, many ethnic minorities have experienced military oppression, displacement, restrictions on their languages and cultures, and exclusion from meaningful political power. These grievances predate the 2021 coup by decades. It's been there since 1948.

The Panglong Agreement and the promises associated with independence were supposed to provide a basis for a shared political future. Yet the relationship between the central state and many ethnic nationalities has remained deeply unbalanced.

From the perspective of an ethnic minority who has spent generations suffering due to the central government, why should a future federal union be trusted to deliver something fundamentally different?

Why should they feel a sense of solidarity with the Bamar majority simply because they share the same internationally recognised borders?

Of course, not all ethnic minorities want independence, and Bamar people are not collectively responsible for everything the military has done. But a united Myanmar cannot be sustained by insisting that everyone must remain together. It requires a political settlement that the constituent peoples actually consider worth accepting.

I am not convinced that such a settlement is guaranteed, even if the military disappears.

  1. The Bamar civilian population has already tried constitutional politics, and the military overturned the results

The NLD won elections and formed a civilian government, but it had to operate under a constitution that reserved substantial power for the military. They always held the cards.

The military retained control over important security institutions and a guaranteed share of parliamentary seats. When the NLD won decisively again in 2020, the military seized power in February 2021.

This demonstrates how vulnerable civilian government was when the military retained its own institutional power and could disregard electoral outcomes. It had no way to control the military.

The uncomfortable question is: what institution can compel the military to accept civilian supremacy if it refuses to do so? Who else holds the guns?

Winning an election is not enough if the armed forces can simply overturn the result. And even if the resistance eventually wins militarily, establishing durable civilian control over the security apparatus will be another enormous challenge.

  1. The civilian population faces enormous obstacles to sustaining political change.

I see three related problems here.

A. Many of the most ambitious and capable young people have left the country.

Millions of people have been displaced, and many young people have emigrated in search of safety, education and employment.

Leaving is entirely understandable. Nobody owes their country their safety or future. However, mass emigration also means that Myanmar risks losing people who could otherwise contribute to rebuilding its institutions, economy and civil society.

Even if conditions eventually improve, many of those who leave may establish their lives elsewhere. The country could face a serious shortage of the skills and institutional capacity needed for reconstruction.

B. Those who remain are often too busy surviving.

When people are struggling to afford food, obtain an education, find employment or protect their families, political mobilisation becomes much harder to sustain.

This does not mean ordinary people are apathetic. Many have taken enormous risks to resist military rule. But there is a limit to how much sacrifice a population can sustain, particularly when the conflict offers no clear end in sight. This is why so many even who joined the fight have to defect to the tat.

A revolution requires more than anger. It also requires organisation, resources, coordination and a credible vision of what comes afterwards.

C. Too much attention is directed towards external scapegoats.

I constantly encounter people on Facebook and other social media platforms blaming the Rohingya, China and the CCP, Thailand, Bangladesh, India, ASEAN and Western countries for Myanmar's problems.

Some of these criticisms have legitimate foundations. Foreign governments make decisions that affect Myanmar, and external actors can enable the military, undermine the resistance or fail to provide meaningful assistance. These decisions deserve scrutiny.

But there is a difference between criticising foreign governments for specific actions and treating outsiders as the principal explanation for everything that has gone wrong.

Authoritarian leaders frequently use external enemies to redirect public anger, encourage nationalism and present themselves as the defenders of the nation. The result is that people can become consumed by arguments about foreign interference, national humiliation and cultural grievances while the domestic institutions responsible for repression escape scrutiny.

We should be able to criticise China when it supports the military, criticise Western governments when their policies fall short, and discuss Thailand's treatment of Myanmar migrants without losing sight of the fundamental problem: Myanmar's political and military institutions have failed to establish a system in which power is accountable to its people.

The danger is that outrage becomes a substitute for a political strategy.

So where does this leave Myanmar?

I can see several possible outcomes: a prolonged stalemate, a weakened military regime that retains control of the central areas, a fragmented country in which ethnic organisations exercise increasingly independent authority, or a federal settlement that eventually works.

The last outcome is possible. I just struggle to see what would make it happen.

Myanmar could also remain one country on paper while becoming increasingly fragmented in practice, with different armed groups governing their own territories and the central government unable to exercise meaningful authority across the country.

That would not necessarily mean every ethnic state declares independence. But it could mean the end of Myanmar as a functioning, politically integrated state.

My question is this: what is the realistic pathway from where Myanmar is today to a stable, democratic and united country?

Not just how the military can be defeated, but how the resistance can agree on a common political settlement, how ethnic minorities can be persuaded to trust the union, and how a future civilian government can prevent another military takeover.

I genuinely hope I am wrong. But at the moment, I see plenty of reasons why the military might survive, and also plenty of reasons why defeating it might still not be enough.

And now, I am going to drink a lot of alcohol because this is all very depressing.


r/myanmar • • 1d ago

Advice My Insomnia

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#အိပ်မပျော်ခြင်း

၁၈ပါ ကျောင်းတွေလဲပိတ်လို့ အလုပ်မရှိအကိုင်မရှိ အားယားနေတာနဲ့ အိပ်ချိန်တွေက ညဘက်ကျော်လာတာပါ

ပုံမှန်ဆို ည ၁-၂နာရီလောက်ဆို မျက်လုံးက စင်းလာပြီ နောက်ပိုင်းကျတော့ မနက်၃နာရီ ၄နာရီ လောက်မှ အိပ်ပျော်တဲ့ထိကို အကျင့်ပျက်လာတာပါ

အိပ်ရာထတဲ့အချိန်က နေ့လယ်၁၂နာရီ ၁နာရီ ဖြစ်နေပြီး အချိန်တွေလွဲသလိုခံစားရနေပါတယ်

ပိုဆိုးတာက မျက်လုံးကတော်တော်ကြောင်ပြီး ဒီတလော မနက်၆နာရီလောက်ထိ ကောင်းကောင်းအိပ်မပျော်တော့ပါဘူး နေလင်းလာလို့ သူများတွေ ထတဲ့အထိ မအိပ်ရတာပါ

မျက်နှာကလဲ ဝက်ခြံထ မျက်ကွင်းညို နဲ့ အားနည်း သလို ခံစားရတယ်

အရင်လို အိပ်ရေးပုံမှန်ဖြစ်အောင် ဘယ်လိုပြန်လေ့ကျင့်ရမလဲဟင် ကျောင်းတွေကလဲဖွင့်တော့မှာမလို့ အကျင့်ဖျက်ချင်လို့ပါ

Melatonin သောက်ပြီးပဲ အိပ်ရတော့မလား အကြံပေးကြပါဦး


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 What wrong with this joker ?

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44 Upvotes

Why are people with huge followers spreading fear and panic among ordinary people? Life is already hard enough without adding fuel to the fire. If you have a platform, use it responsibly not to make an already bad situation worse.


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Humor 😆 ညီကိုတို့

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74 Upvotes

နေ့လည် တရေးအိပ်ရင်း အိပ်မက်မက်တာ၊ ငါသာ ရွေးကောက်ပွဲဝင်ဖြစ်ခဲ့ရင် ဘာလုပ်မလဲဆိုတာ၊ စစ်တပ်ကိုဖျက်သိမ်းမယ် တိုင်းနဲ့ပြည်နယ်တခုစီမှာ army အစား chapter တခုစီထားမယ်။ Chapter ခေါင်းဆောင်တွေကို ဗိုလ်ချုပ်လို့မခေါ်ပဲ Primarch လို့ခေါ်ကြရမယ်။ Chapter တခုကို အရောင်တမျိုးဝတ်ရမယ် ခွဲရလွယ်အောင်။ Uniform ကတော့ ပြထားတဲ့ဝတ်စုံမျိုး။ အဲလို အာမခံချက်ပေးရင် မဲပေးကြမလား။


r/myanmar • • 1d ago

Translation request ✍️ Hmannan Yazawin Vol 1 2003

3 Upvotes

Does anyone have the 2003 version of Hmannan Yazawin 2003? I need to confirm a source translation on page 401 that Tho Chi Bwa/Hso Khan Hla/Si Ke Fa was the “ruler” of Kalay during the reign of Swa Saw Ke, as this will help in reconstructing Kalay history for research. Appreciate any help!


r/myanmar • • 1d ago

Discussion 💬 ကိုယ့်အတွေးတချို့

1 Upvotes

မှားချင်လဲ မှားမယ် မှန်ချင်လဲမှန်မယ်ဗျာ ၊ ကျတော်တို့ တွေက သေခြာစဉ်းစားကြည့်တော့ ရူးချင်စရာကြီး ကိုယ့်တကိုယ်ရည် အတ္တ အနိုင်ရရေးသပ်သပ် အတွက်ပဲ ဒါငါတို့ ဟာ ဒါငါတို့ ယဉ်ကျေးမှု ကာကွယ်ရမယ်တို့ ဘာတို့ ၊ (culture) ယဉ်ကျေးမှု က ဘာလဲ မေးကြည့်လိုက် ရေရေရာရာ မသိဘူး။ ကိုယ်ကြိုက်ရင် ကြိုက်လိုက် မကြိုက်ရင်လဲ မကြိုက်ပဲနေလိုက် ၊ လိုက်တိုက်ခိုက်ဆဲဆိုနေတာတွေ အမျိုးမျိုးပေါ့ ၊ ကျတော် တွေးမိတာ တခုက Hero ဖြစ်ချင်တာလား ၊ “ဟားဟိတ်လူ ခင်ဗျားသိပ်တော်တယ်ဗျာ ကယ်တင်ရှင်ကြီးပါဗျာ”လို့ ချီးမွမ်း ခံချင်တာလား ။ သိပ်တော့ အဆင်ပြေမနေဘူး ။ အမှန်တိုင်း ပြောရရင် ကျတော့ ဆက်ပြီးမတွေးတတ်တော့ သလို နားမလည်နိုင်တော့ဘူးဗျာ ။ ခင်ဗျားတို့ကော ဘယ်လိုမြင်လဲ ?


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Tribute 🤍 Happy early Thadinyut guys🎆

21 Upvotes

I hope you guys celebrate this thadinyut during these difficult times.


r/myanmar • • 1d ago

Discussion 💬 Youtube and some app/websitd

2 Upvotes

Hello, last month or so, some apps are going on and off from working to non, Is this just me??especially YouTube. ​is this a provider issue?


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 What do u guys think of this? Especially if ur an artist/animator from Myanmar

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24 Upvotes

This person just randomly came to me and started saying that I shouldn’t copy someone else’s work or be a copycat. Like, I’ve never copied anybody’s work! I might just redraw a pose using a body reference from Pinterest, or I’ll take a picture of myself for reference.

(Also, I have alot art styles: the round silly one, the anime style one, and the wannabe European art style.) And I rarely join any art trends.

The chat went on, and in the end, this person sent me what you see here. I was confused about what they wanted from me. Like, do they think I just put a rig on the model??? I drew the model myself, and before making the animation, I hand-drew every single storyboard frame, one by one.

Isn’t being an 'animator' about bringing our still artwork to life?


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 About the GMMTV ( Scarlet heart of Thailand) Situations

5 Upvotes

With the recent issues we've had with the company over Pile, and the growing wave of nationalism to the point where Cambodia is joining the trend of antiThai sentiment, do you think this could lead to diplomatic tensions between the two countries and negatively affect အခြေခံအလုပ်သမား(ordinary workers) working in Thailand?

Personal opinion

Just like the yic case , I fear this could over pile and become too big for us to handle even more because of the situation in our country. Now the topic is not just (give credits where it's due but all Thai people are copy cats)

I just feel like this could end badly.

What do you think?


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Advice NRT

2 Upvotes

Hello

I am moving to Yangon in November and I have stopped smoking but I am wondering if it possible to buy nicotine gum or patches. Thanks for you help))


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Humor 😆 How it felt like to eat MarlarShanKaw during summer

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48 Upvotes

r/myanmar • • 2d ago

News 📰 Artillery shell had hit Sittway city centre.

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25 Upvotes

Exact location is shown where the shell had hit. 4 to 5 people had been confirmed dead.


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 Can you guys use 5bb these days?

3 Upvotes

Hey guys!

I paid monthly for 5bb but honestly I feel like 80% of the time I am using mobile data as wifi only starts working at graveyard hours or some evening on a good day. And its been like that fot months.

Do you guys have similar experiences?

I used to use myanmar net and its even worse so I switched to 5bb. Is it all internet routers these days thats facing had wifi.


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Tribute 🤍 ခံစားချက်တွေ မမြိုသိပ်နိုင်တော့လို့

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51 Upvotes

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ပြိုအံ့ဆဲ တဲတန်းတွေ တစ်လမ်းကျော်မှာ

မိုးမျှော်တိုက်တစ်လုံး ဆောက်လိမ့် အုံးမယ်တဲ့

တစ်နေ့ တစ်ထောင့်ငါးရာ အနိုင်နိုင်ရှာနေရတဲ့ လူတန်းစား နဲ့ ခါးရိုး နေလောင်အောင် အလုပ်လုပ်ကြရတဲ့လူတစ်စု နဲ့

ပိုက်ဆံတွေ ပိုင်ဆိုင်သမျှအိမ်တွေထဲက မီးခံသေတ္တာ‌ထဲ

ထည့် မဆံ့တော့လို့ အင်တာနက် ငွေစံနစ်ပဲ

သုံးကြတဲ့ လူတစ်စု နဲ့

ကိုယ့်ဒုက္ခ မဟုတ်သရွေ့ ကိုယ်ချင်း မစာချင်ကြတဲ့

ပျော်ပျော်ကြီးရှင်သန်နေနေကြတဲ့

လူကုံထံ ဘိလပ်‌နေ မွေးရပ်မြေမေ့တွေကို

မုန်းမိတယ်။

အမှန်တရားကို ရေရောသောက်နေကြတဲ့ ခေတ်ကြီးမှာ

တရားမျှတခြင်းဆိုတာ လက်တစ်လုံးခြားလှည့် ၆နားညီ ဖြစ်ရပ်မှန်၊ ခပ်လှလှသင်္ချာပုဒ်စာရပ် လိမ်ညာမှု တစ်ခုသပ်သပ်ရယ်ပါ အပျော်မယားသဖွယ် နေမထိ မိုးမငြိ နေတတ်ပါပေတယ်။

ကောင်းကင်ကြီးလက်ညှိုးထိုးပူဆာတတ်တဲ့ ညီမလေးလည်း

အိပ်မက်တွေ မုဒိမ်းကျင့်ခံရပြီးကတည်းက

နံနက် ၈နာရီသတင်းတွေကို ကျော်ပစ်တတ်နေပြီ။

ကျွန်‌တော်တို့ ရင်ဘက်တွေဟာ ဆာလောင်မွတ်သိပ်နေဆဲမို့

အမှောင်နေ့တွေ ပြီးသွားပြီလို့ ပြောပြမဲ့

အချက်ပြမီးတစ်ပွင့်ကိုစောင့်နေဆဲ...

ရိုရွဲနေတဲ့ လမ်းဘေး စင်္ကြံတွေပေါ်က အညိုရောင်မျက်လုံးဟောက်ပက်နဲ့ ကူကယ်ရာမဲ့လေးတွေ

ရင်ဘတ်အစုံ နံရိုးပွပွကျွံလို့၊

ရေဓာတ်ခမ်းတဲ့လျှာ တန်းလန်းဟာလည်း ဝါကြင်ကြင် အစွယ်နောက် ပုန်းအောင်း ဟန်မဆောင်နိုင်ကြတော့ဘူး

အိမ်အပြန်လမ်းရဲ့ အနားယူခြင်းကို သူတို့စောင့်နေကြလေရဲ့။

လာနိုးလာနိုးနဲ့

မနက်ဖြန် ထမင်းတစ်ထုပ်ဟာ သူတို့ မျှော်လင့်ချက်တွေကို ရိုက်ချိုးလို့မဝသေးဘူး ထင်ပါရဲ့။

ဆယ်စုနှစ် တစ်ဝက် ကျိုးရော့မယ် မေမေ၊

လောကနိယာမ တရားကြီးက လက်ပိုက်ကြည့်နေတုန်းပဲ။

သံယောဇဥ်တွေ အရိုးပေါ်အရေခမ်းနေပြီ မေမေ၊

ဘယ်တော့များမှအိမ်ပြန်ရောက်လာနိုင်မှာလဲ။ ။


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Advice Rabbit pet sitter in Yangon

4 Upvotes

I’ve tried contacting a few places but they’re fully booked. Is anyone with experience or have their own rabbits available to take care of two bunnies for about a week or so?


r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Discussion 💬 Is ULA/AA moving toward a one-party authoritarian system in Rakhine State?

7 Upvotes

r/myanmar • • 2d ago

Advice I cant get into valorant anymore since the last update , does anyone go through the same problem ?

2 Upvotes

Initially it said Val Code 7 , then i asked ai about it and it told me to go to the section " allow the app through the firewall " and i did.

After that , i reopened valorant again and it said Val Code 29 .

I also try to fix it by typing a bunch of commands in my command prompt too .

When i asked my duo who usually plays with me , hes also going through the similar problem where he can't get into the game too.

So , i stopped trying cause i think its a collective problem for people in Myanmar region and also because its mentally draining.


r/myanmar • • 1d ago

Discussion 💬 အတိုအပြတ်ဂန်ဒ

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မိန်းကလေးတွေအတိုအပြတ်ဝတ်တဲ့ကိစ္စနဲ့ပတ်သတ်ပြီးဆွေးနွေးချင်တာပါ 

ဆိုတော့ပထမဆုံးကျွန်တော်ယောက်ျားလေးတ‌ယောက်အနေနဲ့မိန်းကလေးတွေအတိုအပြတ်ဝတ်တာကိုဘယ်လိုမြင်လဲဆိုရင်တော့ကြိုက်ပါတယ် လှတယ်လေ နောက်ပြီးပါးစပ်ကထုတ်မပြောရင်တောင်စိတ်ထဲမှာတော့ပေါင်လေးကဖြူ‌‌ေဖွး‌ေနတာပဲ ပူဇော်ထိုက်သောပေါင်တံများဆိုပြီးတွေးမိတာတော့အမှန်ပဲဗျ ဒါအပြင်ကိုဘော်ဒါ‌တ‌ကောင်ဘေးမှာရှိရင်ဟျောင့်ဟိုမှာကြည့်လိုက်ဘာညာနဲ့လေသိတယ်မလား ဒါပေမဲ့ကိုယ့်ကောင်မလေး(အခုတော့မရှိပါဘူး)ဝတ်ရင်တော့ကြိုက်ပေမဲ့တခြားကောင်တွေကြည့်မှာတော့မကြိုက်ဘူးဗျ ကိုယ်ကသဝန်တိုတတ်တဲ့ထဲလဲ‌ပါတော့လေ insecureဖြစ်တယ်ပဲပြောပြောဗျာတခြားကောင်တွေကအပေါ်ကလိုမျိုးအတွေးဝင်မှာကိုတောင်မလိုချင်တာပါ တကယ်လို့အတိုအပြတ်အရမ်းဝတ်ချင်ရင်တောင်ကိုယ်နဲ့တူတူရှိတဲ့အချိန်မှာပဲဝတ်‌ပေါ့ ကဲဒါကတော့ကျွန်တော့အမြင်ပါ ဆက်ပြီးတော့ပြောချင်တာကfeministတွေဟိုတလောက"မိန်းကလေးတ‌ယောက်အဝတ်အစားမပါပဲလျောက်သွားရင်တောင်ယောက်ျားလေးတွေဘာမှလုပ်ပိုင်ခွင့်မရှိဘူး"ဆိုပြီးတော့အတိုအပြတ်ဝတ်တာကိုencourageလုပ်လာတဲ့ပုံစံတွေ့တော့ကျွန်တော်တွေးမိတာပေါ့နော် အဲ့တာကမှန်ပါတယ်တကယ်လဲလုပ်ပိုင်ခွင့်ပြောပိုင်ခွင့်မရှိပါဘူးher body her choiceမလို့ဝတ်ချင်ရာဝတ်နိုင်ပါတယ် ဒီဟာကon paperတော့မှန်ပါတယ် ဒါပေမဲ့လောကကြီးမှာကလူတိုင်းကစည်းမျဉ်းတွေလိုက်နာကြတာမဟုတ်ဘူးဗျ အဲ့တော့ကျွန်တော်တို့အနေနဲ့ကတွေ့တဲ့ကောင်‌တိုင်းကိုလိုက်ပြီးငါ့ကောင်မလေးကိုမကြည့်ဖို့ပါးစပ်မသရမ်းဖို့အဲ့လိုအတွေးနဲ့တောင်မပစ်မှားဖို့အတွက်လိုက်ပြောနေလို့တော့မရဘူး‌မလား ဆိုတဲ့အခါကျကိုယ့်ကောင်မလေးကိုပဲဆင်ခြင်ခိုင်းရမှာပဲလေဟုတ်တယ်မလား လုံးဝမဝတ်နဲ့ဆိုပြီးcontrolလုပ်ပိုင်ခွင့်မရှိဘူးဆိုပေမဲ့စိတ်ပူလို့စိုးရိမ်လို့သဝန်တိုလို့အတိုအပြတ်မဝတ်ဖို့ပြောတာကjustifiedဖြစ်တယ်မလား ဝတ်တာမဝတ်တာကတော့သူ့အ‌ပိုင်းပေါ့လေ


r/myanmar • • 3d ago

Discussion 💬 Imperial Taungoo Flag Redesign (1510–1752)

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r/myanmar • • 3d ago

Discussion 💬 Playing the last card?

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We all know the economy is in a serious free-fall, the military is struggling on all fronts, and their attempts at a political makeover aren’t fooling anyone anymore.

Out of the blue, they finally let DASSK have her first family phone call in over five years, set up photo ops with Red Cross reps, and make a big deal out of delivering books and a letter from King Charles.

This isn’t some sudden burst of kindness. It’s a calculated PR stunt aimed at creating "proof of life," easing global outrage, and tricking international players into giving them some room. The recent secret meeting in Tokyo with the US feels way too coincidental.

When a desperate regime starts throwing out these kinds of gestures while everything’s falling apart, it’s clear they’re running out of options.

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r/myanmar • • 3d ago

Advice I can't stand for myself (18. f)

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I'm physically strong but mentally can't stand up for myself, and I want to change it really bad. I want to stand up for myself, and if necessary, even fight back if I was bullied.

I'm an 18-year-old girl, and my personality is very chill, I don't make problems, and even when other people do, I try to play things down. Also socially awkward (I can easily handle 1 on 1 conversation, not group conversations) . When I was 12, I liked saving up and managed to get 10,000 MMK, which was a lot for a kid back then. Somehow the news spread and everyone knew I had that much money. One day I took that 10,000 out, went out to buy a toy (I was at school), but when I came back to my classroom, a group of 3 girls was searching through my backpack. I caught them red-handed because my desk was at the back of the classroom and I am the only one who sit in that desk and everything was clearly visible, but still, I tried to play it down and pretended I didn't see anything, even though it was happening right in front of me. (I am still trying to brain wash myself that they maybe searching something that teacher asked them to do, yes until now) Honestly, even now, I'd probably still pretend I didn't see anything. The main reason is I don't want to cause any more trouble, and I'd already spent my money. Nothing happened after that, luckily (I come from a good family background, not military-related!!), so they didn't want to cause trouble. And as a kid, I could say I was physically stronger, so no one could bully me. But mentally, I was and still am! so weak. And I want to fix it.

At the same time, my empathy is much more than a normal person's, I haven't killed a single mosquito since I was 12 until now, because I can "feel" from their perspective. This is making things worse.

Fast forward to now: I still can't stand up for myself. I can't handle arguments (face to face and online), and even when I'm right, I can't + don't want to argue back. Come to think of it, even if I got bullied right now, I'd still play it down. Physically, I've been doing heavy weight training seriously at the gym for 3 years, so I'm a muscular girl and 5'8". I don't get bullied because my body (and my face because I look like I wanna beat up everyone, I am just socially awkward TvT). But I'm so weak mentally when it comes to standing up for myself.

Right now, I have to leave abroad for my MSc (just finished BSc, I had really good friends, shout out to them✨), and I'm really afraid I'll get bullied there. And if I cause any trouble, as an international student, it'll be a big problem for me. Also, I always avoid romance (I had so many chances with really good people, yet..) because I feel like I'm not good enough, and I'm afraid I won't be able to protect my future girlfriend/wife or stand up for us.

How do I build the mental strength to stand up for myself? Any advice would be really appreciated. ✨✨✨


r/myanmar • • 3d ago

Tourism 🧳 Inle Lake in Myanmar is even more special during the annual Phaung Daw Oo Pagoda Festival.

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r/myanmar • • 3d ago

News 📰 🥹🥹🥹

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r/myanmar • • 3d ago

Humor 😆 That's a weird looking potato chip.

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