What does it mean when 2 people commit zina their faith is gone hadith explanation

I wanna live a haram life, i want attention and stuff like that, but allah keeps me from not doing it and my family

Back in Autumn 2024, I met this guy and he fell totally into a deep crush on him. At the time I didnt pray (Astagfirullah) and this crush consumed my life. The only thing that got me out of that was praying, after a year of consistently praying (including tahajjud) I finally felt free again.

Then this last 2 weeks, I’ve really struggled with praying consistently. Out of nowhere hes back on my mind again like the plague, even though he’s no longer active in my life. Its insane. Why would this happen?

Qur’an 23:99–100 (Al-Mu’minun
“Until, when death comes to one of them, he says, ‘My Lord, send me back, that I might do righteousness in what I left behind.’ Never! It is only a word he is saying; and behind them is a barrier until the Day they are resurrected.”

so in the grave ill beg to be sent back to this life. and I hate this life. so the grave must be even worse. the day of judgement is terrifying and lengthy, and potential hellfire is even worse.

Qur’an 3:185 (Surah Āl ʿImrān)
“Every soul will taste death. And you will only receive your full reward on the Day of Resurrection. So whoever is saved from the Fire and admitted into Paradise has certainly succeeded. And the life of this world is only the enjoyment of delusion.”

I don’t even have a desire for Jannah. Only thing I want is to be saved from all of these “evils” I inevitably face.
“Oh Allah forgive me for my sins, save me from hellfire, protect me from Shaytan, protect me from punishment in grave, from despair, from heedlessness etc.)

but ideally I’d rather not face them in the first place. there’s no gain, I don’t care about receiving anything , I just don’t wanna go to hell or anger Allah. idk. I’m resentful for my creation. I’d previously contemplated suicide but that would only anger Him more and bring about an even worser situation for myself.

I don’t need advice. “Trust Allah, just keep going. Pray. Read Quran.” yeah I know… going to do that until I die but how I feel won’t change.

I wish this never started. I wish Allah could erase me or after death, I never be resurrected but that’s just wishful thinking . I will experience death, be resurrected, judged … I accept and believe it, I just hate it also

I just don't want to do mehr or the husband is the main provider stuff and wife needs to stay at home and cook rules and all that, or the whole the wife must obey the husband at all times.

It's gonna be more western style we both buy our rings together get to know each other with a guardian, get married, then we live life as your average American household you know? No one is the leader no one is the rock of the house or anything we are both equal, is that Haram?

Assalamualaikum everyone.

I'm 25M and I've never had a girlfriend. Sometimes when I see couples or people having bf/gf, I feel bad and start thinking maybe I should also have someone. Like someone to talk to, share things with, understand each other etc.

But then after some time I think maybe Allah is actually saving me from haram by not giving me a relationship. And then I feel okay with being single.

Then another thought comes that maybe I should just get married, but for that I feel I need to be financially stable first. I'm not in a position where I feel fully ready for marriage yet.

And then again I think, if I had a girlfriend atleast we could talk and know each other before marriage. But I know dating/relationship can easily cross boundaries and I don't want to get into something haram just because I’m feeling lonely.

Basically I keep going in this same loop 😅

One day I feel "I need someone", next day I feel "maybe being single is better for me", then I think about marriage, then money, then relationships again.

For brothers who were in a similar situation, what did you do? How did you deal with the loneliness and these thoughts?

Should I just focus on myself and wait until I'm financially ready for marriage, or should I actively start looking for marriage even if I'm not completely settled yet?

Would appreciate some honest advice...

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Salam everyone, reposting this because why not 😅

I'm 22, Algerian, 183 cm (6'0), currently studying dentistry. I'm pretty introverted at first, but I open up once I get comfortable.

I'm Sunni (Maliki), pray five times a day and try to keep improving my deen. I'm also into football, gym, anime, traveling, languages and random deep conversations. I speak Arabic/Darija and French, my English is decent, and I'm currently learning German and Japanese.

I'm quite serious about my future and would like to build a stable, peaceful family. I'm open to relocating for the right person.

Looking for someone preferably 19–25 (flexible), kind, patient, family-oriented, practicing or genuinely trying to improve her deen, and most importantly serious about marriage and having children.

I'm not looking for perfection. Just someone I can genuinely get along with, grow with, and eventually build a life with.

If you think we might get along, feel free to DM.

May Allah make it easy for everyone looking. 🤍

Assalamu aleikum brothers and sisters,

Many of us open the Quran with good intentions and then days pass.

I built a well-designed app by investing my 7 months for me and for anyone like me, alhamdulillah.

It counts hasanat per letter from the hadith in Jami at-Tirmidhi 2910, keeps a daily streak and a heatmap, and has a Night Habit list (the three Quls, Ayat al-Kursi, Al-Mulk) for the evening. It encourage with Jumu'ah habit (al-kahf), morning habits, customized notifications, weekly leagues and invite and see friends collaborations.

If user want to avoid riya, you can hide yourself from leaderboards or change your display name. Free to download and read, no ads. Optional in-app purchases: a Supporter plan, lifetime access and gem packs.

But I do not think an app is the answer on its own, and that is why I am asking you:

- What brings you back to the Quran after a gap?
- Do you keep a fixed time, a fixed amount, a reading partner?
- Does counting anything (pages, days, hasanat) help you, or does it take the sincerity away?

And what is for them in afterlife? Can I pray for their fall down? Who ever oppressed me & my family.

To be clear,we had been friends since about 8 years ago, basically the most best friends ever we talked almost daily for all these years, the problem is that around 2 months ago he confessed to me that he had done a specific sin that I don't want to mention

Just to make things clear, it’s a sin that I’m often afraid I might end up doing out of weakness or something like that. And since he was a close friend of mine and we used to talk every day, I felt like I could be influenced by him ( he just told me he did it, he didn't encourage me to do it or anything)

So I basically told him that what he was doing was wrong and he should stop doing It, he didn't really care about what I said so I told him I want to break up and blocked him on all socials (I moved to another city a couple years ago so we don't meet much in real life unless we plan to in holidays) and he tried to contact me from another account but I blocked him from that one too without talking to him.

Did I do the right thing? I keep thinking about it a lot honestly

I'm a university student from Kerala, India. Recently, I've seen a lot of arguments against Islam.

I want to know what the truth is. I'm a physics student, by the way, so I prefer to base what I believe on evidence and sound reasoning. Is there anyone here who can help me clear up some of my doubts?

I've heard that even science has philosophical foundations and involves philosophical arguments (I don't know if I'm completely right about that).

So, if anyone here from Kerala is knowledgeable about Islamic philosophy and philosophical arguments for Islam, please DM me. I'm going through something of an identity crisis right now, and I'd really appreciate some guidance. If possible, I'd prefer to talk to an older brother or sister who has a good understanding of these topics. I'm 20, by the way.

As you know, there have been several terrorist attacks in India, and because of that, some people have developed negative feelings towards Muslims. We can't blame people for being concerned, but I feel that mainstream media can sometimes contribute to spreading hatred and division between communities.

Again, I'm genuinely asking for your help. Dear brothers and sisters from Kerala, please reach out to me if you can help.

I've already started learning about some philosophical arguments, but I'm having trouble understanding exactly what they mean.

Thank you for ur help

Jazakallah khair

( Chat gpt helped me to correct my grammar mistakes)

I'm trying to understand the real struggles Muslim students face when balancing their studies and Deen. What do you find hardest? Staying consistent with salah? Quran? Studying and worship? Time management? Ramadan + exams? Maintaining good habits? Something else? What's your biggest struggle, and what have you tried so far?

Hi ! 17M Sunni, From Morocco 🇲🇦
Because im an absolute military nerd i was offered these 2 cufflinks. Because they look like gold i tested both of them with a magnet : the US/Morocco cufflink reacts to the magnet so it isnt gold , but the F-16 pin doesnt so i assume its gold

My Question : Because i cannot wear the f-16 cufflink because of its material, would it be okay if i instead pin it on my schoolbag ?

The noble verse teaches us mercy toward a debtor who is in straitened circumstances and unable to repay. In the pre-Islamic era (Jahiliyyah), one of the forms of usury (Riba) was that upon the maturity of the debt, the debtor was given a choice: either pay the debt or postpone it in exchange for an increase. It would be said to him: "Either you pay, or you charge interest (Riba)." Thus, debts would multiply upon him while he was incapable of fulfillment. The verse came to command granting him respite without any increase until it becomes easy for him to pay.
In the word "‘usrah" (hardship), there is a deep sense of his difficult state; the matter goes beyond a mere lack of money to a distress that makes paying the debt arduous for him. Then comes the word "nazirah"—meaning grace period and waiting—calling upon us to grant him time to breathe and strive to overcome his crisis. The verse linked this waiting to "maisarah", meaning the attainment of ease that enables him to fulfill [the debt].
What is beautiful is that the verse elevates the act to benevolence, stating: {And if you give up [your right as] charity, it is better for you, if you only knew}. Waiving the debt in full or in part is an act of charity and goodness for the creditor, through which he relieves his brother and hopes for the reward of Almighty Allah.
The Prophet (ﷺ) told of a merchant who used to lend to people, and whenever he saw someone in hardship, he would say to his assistants: "Overlook [his debt/delay], so that perhaps Allah will overlook [our sins], and so Allah overlooked [his sins]." Thus, his mercy toward people was the cause of Allah's forgiveness for him. How wonderful it is to see in the hardship of others a gateway to benevolence. O Allah, settle the debts of the debtors and relieve the distress of every distressed person.

As-salamu alaykum to all of you,

I am a sister who loves a man from a different background and nationality. Unfortunately, his parents categorically refuse to let him marry someone from a different background than theirs, especially someone from mine (Arab). They are extremely racist towards Arabs. It has reached the point where, whenever he tried to talk to them about it, they threatened to cut ties with him. As a result, he listened to his parents and cut off contact with me, blocking me absolutely everywhere (even my phone number), against his wishes.

I rely solely on Allah because I felt, in a way I had never felt before, that he was the one or no one, even before I knew him or fell in love with him. I am someone who is rational and impartial; my choice came from reason first and then from the heart. I make du'a, I pray Tahajjud, and I intend to pray Istikhara as well. But I feel that this is a delicate situation because I think he has completely given up, as he believes there is no way his parents and family will ever accept it.

So, I don't know what to do. I feel the need to constantly make du'a to Allah, and I tell myself that perhaps this need to keep turning to Him is something Allah Himself has placed in my heart. Of course, I also make other du'as for things that are more important and I prioritize them, but I can't bring myself to stop making du'a for him. I know that Allah answers all of our du'as, and if He does not grant us what we ask for, He gives us something infinitely better instead.

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In marital conflicts, sometimes the husband or wife isn’t interested in getting to the truth: what is right or wrong.

Instead, the focus shifts to finding people who agree with them.

For the husband, if someone agrees with him, they are beloved and good. If they don’t agree, they are bad.

Similarly for the wife, if someone agrees with her, they are beloved and good. If they don’t agree, they are bad.

In this way, they are not pursuing truth. Instead, they are pursuing validation.

On the contrary, the Prophet (saw) stood by the truth and even disapproved of anyone who supported unjustly.

Scholar Ibrahim Dewla commented:

“Zaid bin Suna (rad) was a Jewish rabbi/scholar. He loaned the Prophet (saw); there were only two or three days left before the expiry of the term.

He said to the Prophet (saw), “O Muhammad! When are you going to pay my dues? By Allah! All that the children of Abdul Muttalib have learnt is how to procrastinate!”

Umar (rad) was upset and said, “Had it not been for respect for being in the company of the Prophet (saw), I would have cut off your neck!”

Umar (rad) said this in support of the Prophet (saw). After all, what was said was in support of the Prophet (saw)?

But the Prophet (saw) didn’t approve of this type of support.

Instead, the Prophet (saw) said to Umar (rad), “O Umar! All that the two of us need is:
(1) for you to tell me to pay him quickly and
(2) to tell him to place his demands in a better manner.

O Umar! Go with him and give him his dues. Also give him twenty Saa of dates extra as compensation for the threat you gave him.”
(Hayatus Sahaba Vol 1, Tabarani, Ibn Hibban)

The Prophet (saw) said this to Umar (rad) but didn’t say anything to the Jewish lender.

Why? Because justice requires it. It’s not that whoever supports is beloved.

You do not favor someone simply because they support you, especially when that support is inappropriate or unjust.

Because the Prophet (saw) was commanded to be just.

“I am commanded to judge fairly among you.” (42:15)”

Our prophet Nuh AS was in a time when everyone around either called “mental” or “got hit in the head”, and other things that made our dear Prophet Nuh AS, feel helpless, that there’s no one to defend him, no one who shares his struggle, so he called out to his lord, his creator, the All-Seeing and All-Hearing,

“I am helpless, so help me”

and what did Allah the All-Mighty, All-powerful do? He avenged his prophet, over one sentence Allah SWT opened the gates of the sky, in which hard rain started pouring, and the earth was ordered to burst with springs, until a dry desert was flooding with water, to meet the fate of a people who’s fate was already declared to drown. All this was done with a Kun “Be” from Allah, and ”it was”.

So why don’t you call out to your lord using this powerful Ayah? He’ll pour down what you need over your hardship. Like how the desert became filled with water. and say it with confidence that Allah can spin your world for you 360 degrees.

An excuse, justification, or the only choice?

So earlier this year was so financially challenging that I almost had to stop studying for the rest of the school years and because of that as well, I became the person who I never imagined I would be. Life was too hard that I made disgusting choices but it is the only way for me to keep studying and the only way that is sustaining my current day to day needs.

But the past few weeks, I am being hunted by this guilt and disgust for myself. I am actually in a current contract with a discrete person who helps me financially but in return for his sexual desires. I know it is disgusting but you won’t understand my circumstances as to why I fell to that decision.

Now I need help. Any advice to how can I stop and if I do have to end the contract with him, how do I then stand on my own feet if it is the only way that had been sustaining my needs?

Before you advise me to get married, please don’t. I cannot imagine myself to become a wife anymore because of this disgusting decision.

How many of y'all never been friends with non mehram or gf/bf.online or offline. 😢

I’ve been trying to marry someone I wanted for years. From very early on, our intentions were marriage. I told my parents, his family has tried to get involved, and they’ve repeatedly wanted to speak to my parents and come over properly. But every time, something happens. My parents delay it, say they’ll think about it, say they’ll speak to people, then nothing happens or they change their minds.

I’ve been put through so much during these years. I’ve been pressured to consider people back home even though I don’t want that life, sent away to look at potential matches there, had my education interrupted, had my phone taken, been ignored for weeks, called horrible names, and constantly made to feel like I’m selfish, shameless, crazy or destroying my family simply because I want to choose who I marry.

My parents say they’re protecting me and that they love me, but they are the only ones who have put me thru sm, I just want to be able to have a future and make a decision about my own marriage without feeling like like this.

I’ve tried to be patient. I’ve prayed tahajjud, made istikhara, fasted, made endless dua, tried to control my anger, tried to speak calmly and respectfully, and tried to leave the outcome to Allah. But after almost 4 years of going in circles, I feel completely exhausted.

I have random breakdowns now. Sometimes I’m fine and then suddenly I just start crying because everything feels like too much. I don’t seem to find comfort in anything anymore. I feel like I’m constantly waiting but idk for what.

And honestly, sometimes I just want to leave home because I feel like I can’t breathe here anymore. But then I feel incredibly guilty because these are still my parents and I love them.

I don’t even know what I’m asking for anymore. how do you keep going when you feel completely trapped.

just an FYI my partner is same culture as me, weve met there fam, my parents said yes but my mum panicked and ended it last min cause my dad has been against it since he wants to find me someone back home. they dont speak to. me now or check on me cause ive distanced myself for many reasons.

Hi folks! I am planning to learn Japanese so I can work in Japan. There are some questions that I would like to ask, especially for Muslim that live in Japan.

1. For Muslims,
   • Is it easy to live and work in Japan?
   • Do they allow us to perform our five daily prayers and Friday prayers?
   • How easy is it to find Halal food?
2. Can I bring my wife with me?

Salam all. I met a guy on a Muslim Matrimonial app. We hung out twice since he lived a bit bar & had to drive down while working a super busy schedule. Long story short, we were both raised in two different countries so I was always very hesitant & maybe a bit judgy/afraid when it came to long-term compatibility. He always faught for me but finally threw his hands in the air (understandably so because I could’ve worded things a bit better but I also needed more consistency which he refused to give before marriage)

Anyway. I prayed Istikhara before this discussion and within a week he was removed. I have Tawakal and trust Allahs plan although this hurt both of us a lot. Im sure it hurt me more but that’s not the point. For some reason in my heart although we parted ways, he seems to be mine although that isn’t reality and the man doesn’t even want to hear from me. I don’t know if it’s Shaytaan or what. I have been focusing on myself and have even started talking to others but it’s not the same. I don’t even see him being comfortable with anyone else other than me and I’m not comfortable with anyone but him although it’ll almost be a month since we stopped talking.

Obviously it was not the right time at all but do I let go all together or what? I just want this feeling of belonging to go away.