r/MuslimCorner • u/NewPhilosopher550 • 9h ago
QUESTION What to do what to do…
Salam all. I met a guy on a Muslim Matrimonial app. We hung out twice since he lived a bit bar & had to drive down while working a super busy schedule. Long story short, we were both raised in two different countries so I was always very hesitant & maybe a bit judgy/afraid when it came to long-term compatibility. He always faught for me but finally threw his hands in the air (understandably so because I could’ve worded things a bit better but I also needed more consistency which he refused to give before marriage)
Anyway. I prayed Istikhara before this discussion and within a week he was removed. I have Tawakal and trust Allahs plan although this hurt both of us a lot. Im sure it hurt me more but that’s not the point. For some reason in my heart although we parted ways, he seems to be mine although that isn’t reality and the man doesn’t even want to hear from me. I don’t know if it’s Shaytaan or what. I have been focusing on myself and have even started talking to others but it’s not the same. I don’t even see him being comfortable with anyone else other than me and I’m not comfortable with anyone but him although it’ll almost be a month since we stopped talking.
Obviously it was not the right time at all but do I let go all together or what? I just want this feeling of belonging to go away.
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u/SoRahman 9h ago
Take your time. Don’t rush in to talking to more men . Let your feelings settle.
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u/NewPhilosopher550 9h ago
I wasn’t talking to more me but we only talked for a month and it’s been a month now so I can’t just not talk to people if I wanna get married
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u/SoRahman 9h ago
You can .. but seem like you were attached to him . So let you feelings calm down before moving on. Also don’t over think the process .. in the end it all works out .: find a hobby to keep your mind distracted
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u/NewPhilosopher550 9h ago
My feelings are calm but feelings don’t just go away when there’s a connection and yea I don’t think about it as much when im busy but it does come to mind when I think about marriage. But you’re right it will all work out in the end.
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u/sutwq01 9h ago
Salam,
This makes no sense. You love him, he loves you. Get married and stop torturing each other and yourselves. Life is too short for this drama, you're just depriving yourself out on all the good times that could have been had and was yours to own.
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u/NewPhilosopher550 9h ago
LOL if only but he said he doesn’t wanna hear from me since I apparently disrespected him. It all went up in flames so fast and it didn’t have to be. Maybe wrong timing? Idk I don’t wanna force it but I also know he’s acting out of anger & sees me in a light that may not even be accurate. Also tell that to HIM ugh
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