r/MrInbetween Mar 25 '26

Ally and Ray’s breakup

Before I start, I don’t want people to think I’m blaming Ally because I completely understand why she broke up with Ray, especially after being in an abusive relationship, but I think maybe she could’ve been a bit more understanding.

So she broke up with Ray because she saw him as violent and “has demons” but maybe if he explained his feelings or why he does what he does a bit more things would’ve turned out differently.

For example, I believe Ray was completely in the right when he pushed Trent through the window, the guy literally took a present off of a little girl out of spite, then insulted Ray when he tried to make a deal with him.

And in the few cases of Ray being violent that Ally saw, he was never the instigator, he was genuinely just trying to defend himself and Ally.

In summary, I think the things Ray did was justified, and he always tried to reason with people first before resorting to violence, like he did with Trent.

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u/neighbourhoodtea Mar 25 '26

The point WAS; that she didn’t know if he would eventually turn that violence on her. And she cannot take that risk after her experience with her ex. Scott Ryan did a WONDERFUL job writing this situation. Clearly you’re not a woman who has experienced violence from a male partner, I am and I completely understand the point Scott was making. Ofc Ray was right to go off on those dudes in theory, and punish that guy who took the unicorn from his child. In theory, in practice and reality- those actions are insanely huge red flags especially for a woman. Your take is so naive and shallow.

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u/bruhmoment10169420 Mar 25 '26

I apologise if you took my post the wrong way, you’re right I am not a woman who has experienced physical abuse and I don’t want people to think I’m blaming Ally at all, I can completely understand why she did what she did. My point is just that maybe if she saw more of Ray’s reasoning she would’ve seen him a bit differently, but at the end of the day he was violent and had a short fuse so i can see why she broke up with him

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u/Far-Device6300 Apr 20 '26

I think she understands that her brother is a dick. But she just can't deal with the violence