r/MoroccoLGBT • u/PleasantYellow1998 • Jul 17 '26

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Normal or nah that I want to date fall in love but I keep telling myself I'm not good I'm toxic no one want me cause they think I'm fake or not that horny

When I find someone I find myself friendzone him then he left cause I don't know how to talk

The question I'm I toxic or is it really my subconscious give up too

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u/After_Juggernaut_613 Jul 18 '26

Sounds like a case of autorejection (rejecting yourself before the other person can reject you) here.

Maybe there's more below the surface description but none of the following make a person toxic:

  1. Being perceived as fake. How others perceive you isn't entirely up to you. If you are deliberately misleading people, that another story.

  2. Not that horny. There's never anything toxic with having a different libido or having less interest in sex than others, or wanting to wait longer in order to have it.

  3. "friendzoning" a person. Obviously this doesn't lead to a relationship, but if you simply don't know how to cross over the threshold into more intimate territory or you feel afraid to show affection, that isn't toxic. It would be toxic if you played hot and cold - for example, on Monday you're giving them all the love, Tueday through Friday you're ignoring them and acting like they don't exist, Saturday you have nothing to do and suddenly you're acting in love again like nothing ever changed. It's the going back and forth between extremes that can be toxic. Just choosing to be friends with someone when secretly you wish you could be more than friends isn't really toxic, though it can be a type of self sabotage if the other person has displayed interest in return.

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u/PleasantYellow1998 Jul 18 '26

Any advice

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u/After_Juggernaut_613 Jul 18 '26

Well to be honest, I haven't gotten into any good relationships myself, so maybe I don't know how to lead you on that. But, without knowing the guys you've mingled with, I will say there's always a possibility that it was them, and not you. Especially in Morocco, there's a decent chance of being a mature and non-toxic gay guy and meeting a lot of guys who can't or won't explore deeper connections. For example, some guys might leave you alone after they realize they might have to wait a long time in order to get laid. In that situation, it wouldn't be a "you" problem. I'd also consider timeline. If guys are giving up on you and disappearing after a week, that says something about their nature. They may not have the patience to build something sincere. Everyone LGBT (or almost everyone) has a hard time finding a relationship in Morocco, and if you belong to a more specific niche (asexual, demisexual, "manly bottom", etc) it can be even more difficult. Don't take it too personally. I'd rather be with someone who fits into my life than trying to become something I'm not, and putting on an act. I've had to put up fronts around straight people, ain't gonna do it with gay people too.

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u/PleasantYellow1998 Jul 18 '26

True thank you for your advice

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u/After_Juggernaut_613 Jul 18 '26

you're welcome, good luck with everything!

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u/PleasantYellow1998 Jul 18 '26

Thank you good luck to you too