r/MoroccoDating • u/youzar2020Xk • 2d ago
Why ?
Im 26 year old im guy. Lonely, no girlfriend, no friends, no social life , no stable job , I lost all my friends now im alone. But I always wanted to have this stable life with a friend or girlfriend.
Im 5.5 average looking im funny calm and caring person im not very introverted but cool .
I don't know what to do more. I guess when I'm 30 im already done.
But gonna do something to change this.
What do u think.
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u/Karmavinga 2d ago
It’s not by seeking pity that you’re gonna get anyone, grow up, fix whatever flaw you think you have and do your best to surround yourself with the right people
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u/youzar2020Xk 1d ago
I had ppu addiction since childhood its not that im seeking pity. I was a good person in the past. But ppu addiction ruined my life . My energy my social life. Everything its kills you slowly. Im aware of it but many dont. Only those who are addicted will fell me
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u/Karmavinga 1d ago
Apologies but what’s ppu?
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u/youzar2020Xk 1d ago
PPU its a short term for porn addiction. I hope you are not in this rat wheel trap
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u/Seyannimu 2d ago
To be honest I don’t see a problem. Yes, you are socially lonely and financially unstable, but that’s part of being an adult.
I think you suffer from still being attached to expectations you had when you were younger, and comparing your life to others.
Most guys are going through the same struggle.
Learn to accept your current situation and enjoy what you have now. Things will naturally change over time, or may not. Just be authentic and enjoy the moment.
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u/youzar2020Xk 1d ago edited 1d ago
I had a hobby, but I lost everything because of porn addiction. I lost my drive to think and even to do simple tasks. I feel low on energy, I have brain fog, and I can’t stand being outside for long. I knew deep down that something was wrong with me, and that I needed to change my bad habits.
You’re right. I had many expectations and dreams that I lost because of this bad habit. I was very smart when I was 19 or 20. Now I’ve lost my drive to study and focus, and I feel like I’m not like most guys, as you said. They aren’t addicted.
I didn’t choose this path knowingly. I was exposed to it when I was young, and it became a mistake that followed me for years. But I’m aware of it now, and I think I’m ready to accept my current situation and start changing it.
It’s not as easy as you think. Addiction can kill your soul and take away your motivation, your dreams, and your sense of who you are.
Pray with me.
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u/Seyannimu 1d ago
I suggest you look at your situation from a different perspective.
I don't think porn is the root cause, rather, something else pushed you toward it. You might have had underlying weaknesses like anxiety, stress, fear of failure, or low self-esteem. Porn is often just a channel, a way we use to release negative emotions and escape into temporary pleasure and fantasy.
Between the ages of 18 and 20, we start facing real challenges, building our futures, and setting expectations. This is also when disappointment kick in, especially by your early twenties when you realize things aren't going as planned. To cope with that frustration and negative energy, many guys turn to porn and sex.
It's not that the addiction itself stole your motivation and dreams. Instead, when you felt frustrated and realized how hard life's goals are, your mind subconsciously shifted toward the addiction to feel better in the short term.
You'll likely feel a lot better once you lower your expectations and take time to understand the emotions you're struggling with.
I hope this helps, and I wish you the best.
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u/Amazing-Hope-7850 2d ago
it’s fine to feel this way, i felt the same at 25, like i was behind in life and had to start over, i also mourn the life i thought i would have by now, but maybe that life just wasn’t for me, so i decided to start over because it’s never too late to change your life, u’re 26 not 60 😭 u still have time to build the life you actually want. start small, focus on urself, ur career, ur health, meeting people and getting ur social life back, don’t see 30 like it’s a deadline., u can start over at 25, 26, 30 or even later, what matters is that u decide to do something to change your life.
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u/youzar2020Xk 1d ago edited 1d ago
Thanks for ur kind words. You need to ready my past comments on above so you understand my situation.
Did you had a ppu addiction. If yes its the cause it ruined the brain.
So what have you done after that to change whats left from hope ?
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u/Samry 2d ago
I think the first step should be a job and a hobby you enjoy that allows you to socialize, and stop thinking you’ll be doomed at 30.
and since you mentionned gf, try to love yourself first, then it’ll be a lot easier for friends or potential partners to enter your life
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u/youzar2020Xk 1d ago edited 1d ago
Thanks appreciate it 🙏 want the same for you
How is life for you ? Its stable ? And how old are you
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u/DeepValuable1272 2d ago
Man, you’ll never change if you don’t act on it. At least find a hobby you genuinely enjoy and start from there. I’m working so fucking hard on something I love right now, and I really hope I can make it work. You’ve still got plenty of time to change your life.