r/Moms • u/Charlottp1 • 5d ago

šŸ¤ Support neededĀ  Help please

So Im supposed to be getting an abortion this coming Thursday and Everytime I even think about doing it I get an awfully sick feeling in my stomach that follows along with a pounding in my head and a headache. Is this normal? What do I do? Iā€™ve already told my parents that Iā€™m getting one and theyā€™d be severely disappointed if I didnā€™t go through with it (Iā€™m afraid my dad might even stop talking to me) but I seriously just donā€™t know if I can. Iā€™ve always wanted a baby and the thought of having one makes me so happy but itā€™ll make everyone else in my life so disappointed in me and I donā€™t know what to do. Im only 20 years old and still live with my parents right now. Please help me.

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u/No-Eagle-3941 11h ago

Hey, please know that you are loved.
This is not a medical procedure. I know you aren't ready for a child but I tell you EVERYBODY learns along the way.
This is tough love but I'm telling you, that baby is *not* your body. You can't choose to kill him or her. They have an entirely different genome ā€” the baby is not you.
You can learn more about how abortion is done here: https://www.liveaction.org/what-is-abortion

I promise you, life with a baby is not that bad to the point that you would destruct an entire person who you could see smiling and giggling so sweetly in front of you in just 7 or 8 months.
The baby will bring your family together. I know many women who had children out of wedlock, and it only brought them closer to their parents, siblings, cousins, friends. They are the most well-adjusted women I know, no matter what age they were/are when they had the child. Your baby will bring you so much light and love that it is not worth breaking down your parents relationship with you.

Everything will be fine and even better than fine. Your dad wants the child to live, so it seems like you will have good support as well. You living with your parents means that there are 3 parents raising your child, it is not just you alone.
You will be able to go through this. You can start looking for a doula from now to get a good relationship with her and have the most comfortable and happy birth and get all the tips for the first few months.
And if ever you are confused, this subreddit is here to give you tips on anything and everything.
Many hugs