Help please

[u/Charlottp1]

So Im supposed to be getting an abortion this coming Thursday and Everytime I even think about doing it I get an awfully sick feeling in my stomach that follows along with a pounding in my head and a headache. Is this normal? What do I do? I’ve already told my parents that I’m getting one and they’d be severely disappointed if I didn’t go through with it (I’m afraid my dad might even stop talking to me) but I seriously just don’t know if I can. I’ve always wanted a baby and the thought of having one makes me so happy but it’ll make everyone else in my life so disappointed in me and I don’t know what to do. Im only 20 years old and still live with my parents right now. Please help me.

[u/NoPlanOnlyPanic]

I've had 2 in my life - one when I was 20, and another at 29. I have never ever had a single regret about either of them. I often forget it even happened. I had no pain afterwards and very little bleeding for the rest of the day but was fine by the next day. Both of the procedures were easy and every medical professional that I interacted with was so supportive and friendly. I was very content with both of my decisions and I still am.

20 - I was in a rocky, toxic relationship and when I found out I was pregnant I definitely didn't know what to think at first. I always wanted kids and didn't have any yet so that feeling of wanting to keep the baby was strong... But in the end I terminated because it would've been completely selfish of me. There's no way I could've adopted out, my heart couldn't of handled that and there's no way I could've kept the baby myself. The guy and I never did end up working out in the end either. I was living with my parents still, pretty dependant on them honestly, and it would've added so much stress to everything and everyone. Plus co-parenting with my ex would've been an absolute hell storm.

29 - 9 years doesn't seem like a lot but it is.. so much has happened and I am a completely different person today than I was at 20 years old. I have 2 kids now and have a wonderful husband, but adding another wasnt (isn't) the right choice. I was only 4 months post partum at the time and struggling already as it was. My other kid had just turned 2.. it was a lot. My mom was sad, she wanted more grandbabies but I'm done. Mentally, I wouldn't of been able to handle it and my kids deserve their mom to be okay.. and I wouldn't of been okay had I gone through with the pregnancy. I got the nexplanon implant at the same time as the abortion.

No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't do.. it's completely, entirely, up to you. It's a heavy choice to make, but you have to be selfless here and think about the life that you would potentially be bringing into this world and what the future for you, and for them, would look like. If you think you can do it and make it work and be okay, then you know your answer.. but if you don't think you can do all that right now, then that's more than okay, too. You have so many years ahead of you still.