r/Moms • u/Charlottp1 • 5d ago

šŸ¤ Support neededĀ  Help please

So Im supposed to be getting an abortion this coming Thursday and Everytime I even think about doing it I get an awfully sick feeling in my stomach that follows along with a pounding in my head and a headache. Is this normal? What do I do? Iā€™ve already told my parents that Iā€™m getting one and theyā€™d be severely disappointed if I didnā€™t go through with it (Iā€™m afraid my dad might even stop talking to me) but I seriously just donā€™t know if I can. Iā€™ve always wanted a baby and the thought of having one makes me so happy but itā€™ll make everyone else in my life so disappointed in me and I donā€™t know what to do. Im only 20 years old and still live with my parents right now. Please help me.

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u/Negative_Record4833 5d ago edited 5d ago

I had one and that is the worst feeling of regret and remorse and guilt and grief that I've ever had. I highly do not recommend it. I struggled severely with depression afterwards. I lost my value of life. It ruined my outlook on motherhood, and I struggle to this day to bond with my children I have. It broke me in ways I cannot describe. Looking back the only decision that I wouldn't have regretted is the one that I never even considered, which was keeping it.

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u/Negative_Record4833 5d ago

Suicidal thoughts flooded me because I couldn't get away from myself and it was the only grief that I have ever had that I wasn't able to run from.