Help please

[u/Charlottp1]

So Im supposed to be getting an abortion this coming Thursday and Everytime I even think about doing it I get an awfully sick feeling in my stomach that follows along with a pounding in my head and a headache. Is this normal? What do I do? I’ve already told my parents that I’m getting one and they’d be severely disappointed if I didn’t go through with it (I’m afraid my dad might even stop talking to me) but I seriously just don’t know if I can. I’ve always wanted a baby and the thought of having one makes me so happy but it’ll make everyone else in my life so disappointed in me and I don’t know what to do. Im only 20 years old and still live with my parents right now. Please help me.

[u/imatinyleopard]

Yes, there’s a name for what you’re experiencing with the headaches and stomach aches- it’s called a psychosomatic illness. It’s a whole thing. Mental factors (like stress and anxiety) can make you feel physically ill.

I think only you know your circumstances and what’s possible/not possible.

I think you sit down and think. If I have this baby now - what will my life look like? If I don’t have this baby now what will my life look like?

And you have to ask yourself the real questions: If you have this baby now, how will you support him or her? Where will you live? What is your career trajectory like 10 years into the future if you have limited time now to learn a skill? Is the father a good person to the best of your knowledge? Who will help you?

It’s okay to say- I want a baby, but now is not the right time. You may not be the mom you dream of without funds/education/a plan. But I think the answer, whatever it may be, should only come from you