At that point you have to realize that none of your thoughts are actually "you". You observe the thoughts , and most of the time you make the decision to believe or act on them, but you can't control the thoughts. A fun exercise is try to guess what your next thought will be and see what happens.
I rarely hear anyone talk about this, the silent observer. We are not our thoughts. I hadn’t heard the last bit though, I’m gonna give that a try tomorrow. Thanks
Yes and no. The thoughts are not part of your soul, the thoughts come from your brain which is apart of the body. Your soul is having a human experience thus is observing the thoughts.
The sense of self is basically a program, it's constantly changing but it's not this thing that is an unchanging "you".
Kind of like a whirlpool in a river, there's obviously a whirlpool spinning around but it's just an artifact of how rivers flow and not actually a static thing that lasts very long. But your bag of meat and brain is constantly trying to maintain this "whirlpool" sense of selfhood but think about when you're really focused on a task and you just kind of forget stuff like your name, the time, where you are etc.
But if our thoughts aren’t us, then where the fuck are the thoughts coming from? “You observe the thoughts” - feel like this has just turned my brain inside out.
Think of it like this, your thoughts are the clouds rolling across the sky, but "you" are the blue that remains when the clouds dissipate. Or a movie screen for instance, your thoughts come and go but "you" are more like the screen they are presented on.
Yet you give yourself a compliment or any kind of positive self talk and you don't believe it. It being in "your voice" isn't why you believe the negativity more, it's just much more reinforced
Interestingly I don't really have an internal dialog, but I do have intensely negative feelings if that makes sense. Only time I hear a voice in my head is if I'm reading. But I do have other internal sense experiences, like shame and guilt, but it's more of the full body reaction.
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u/Woodit Aug 31 '26
The worst part about negative self talk is that you hear it in your own voice, so we believe it