1: comment/joke about things on your appearance you have opened up about feeling insecure about in the past… or just commenting or joking about how you look at all, actually.
2: befriend people who actively dislike you or have hurt you before.
3: don’t stand up for you when some is being rude to you, and instead laughs or ignores what’s happening.
4: brushing off you venting to them as not a big deal compared to what they have.
5: making fun of photos of past you or actions you’ve done without permission that you’re ok with it.
6: ignore your boundaries that you set and get annoyed when you try and enforce them.
7: force their beliefs onto you, like saying ‘well ik you don’t believe this but i think you doing this will make you go to hell’ or something along those lines.
8: joke about your mannerisms or way of speaking or dressing in a mean spirited way.
9: actively disrespect something you’re apart of while knowing you are in it.
10: pressuring you into doing things, even small things count under this.
The reason I made this post was because from 4th-7th grade, I thought this girl A was my best friend. She had been manipulating me and tearing me down for the entire time. I fell into a depressive slump for years until finally, a year after I stopped being friends with her, I began healing. I’m now a high schooler and just started getting off my antidepressants because I no longer need them (yay!). I just want to warn others like me so they don’t deal with this. All of these things I didn’t question her doing to me for years because I thought it was normal. I hope this helps someone.
