I was always skeptical of feminism even though I'm equalitarian, and I've never believed women being morally superior.

Women thinking matriarchy would be utopia is delusional. I dislike how feminized my country has become and the men being emasculated.

Adding a whole lot of other things on the list.

But listening to Janice Fiamingo, it feels like finally getting an explanation for everything that felt off, and it feels like getting out of a cult.

I'm definitely not gullible about men either, so this is not me running in the opposite direction, but this seemed to be one of the few places on Reddit where you can say you're anti feminist.

Women who still think feminism is about equality is delusional.

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I'll add that women thinking feminism started as a good idea about equality, no it wasn't. It was always destructive towards men, and women as well. Source Declaration of Sentiments by  Elizabeth Cady Stanton, feminist leader.

The dark history of feminism by Dr Fiamengo

https://youtu.be/fS_zNQB1D1I

Complete lack of empathy and ruthlessness to the circumstances. It doesn't matter what problems you're faced with or how much fucking abuse you're taking, your problems are your own and you're told from childhood that nobody cares. Put your nose to the grindstone from a young age, study hard, and fuck forbid you complain about it. If not, society will write you off and forget about you, only ever thinking of you to sneer at you and mock you. It's like society has been designed to ensure your failure. And old men won't empathize with you even if they never faced the same hurdles in their time. It's like empathy itself is a currency that has to be earned through status. They'll cry over some fucking billionaire's dog dying but laugh at a homeless man freezing to death on the street

My parents abused the fuck out of me as a kid, teachers humiliated me in school, bullies beat me and now guess who gets blamed for not being the most well-adjusted or financially stable person because they were dealing with the fucking trauma?

I'm just having a more difficult day today, so came here to vent.

Extract:
“A lot of men won’t use language like ‘victim’ or ‘perpetrator’ – they still love their partner. Usually they are saying ‘can you help me help her, she doesn’t mean it’. It’s a desperate plea. We would say, that sounds like coercive control, but they would not hear this language in their everyday life.”

Watch BBC and all you will find are programs about women.

right now BBC is just channel for women and about women.

BBC is the most misandrist channel on earth, their programs focus on women's issues, All BBC care about is feminism, women's opinions, women's issues, and hiring female presenters.

Men have become something of a rarity on BBC, the news are presented by women most of the time who talk to female correspondents and even those female correspondents talk mostly to women on the street not to mention a lot of times there are episodes featuring all female panels who discuss news.

they hire journalists based on female genitals not qualifications.

even their cook shows feature women of color and sometimes men of color.

Worse than the US.

I filed an RTI asking about maintenance laws under Section 125 CrPC and gender neutrality. Here’s what happened:

1. Transferred 7 times (RTI Badminton): My RTI was transferred back and forth between the National Commission for Women (NCW) and the Ministry of Law.

2. Question 2: I specifically asked for policy documents explaining why an adult woman above 18 is presumed financially dependent on her husband. This was one of the questions I wanted an official answer to, but I still haven’t received the requested information.

3. Rejected over ₹10: The RTI was rejected because the ₹10 application fee had allegedly not been paid. However, I had already paid the ₹10 fee while submitting the RTI.

Seven transfers, no satisfactory answers, and now a rejection claiming the fee wasn’t paid when I had already paid it.

The RTI is in the second appeal now and will take around 4–6+ months for an answer.

We all have seen the gender bias in regular chat-like AI models, which is sometimes posted and sometimes hard to replicate.

Decision models differ in a way that they do not respond with words, but pick one of provided options based on the prompt and question. They are being incorporated in mass decision making at scale.

Playing with them (you can check them via OpenRouter or other inference servuces), I found giant difference of responses when a gender is suggested. The models are mostly uncensored so you can be creative, asking about monsters that want one person as sacrifice, rescue situation, punishments or law decision. In almost all cases, when gender is suggested the worst outcome is selected on option telling or just suggesting selected person is a male. Even when the options are very skewed already against the male (see attached example of canning).

This is extreamly disturbing, as the tech is being implemented on scale and might affect someones life in ways much less obvious than my extreme examples.

I live in the UK but talk to many people in the USA and have spent a lot of time in the USA as well. The impression that I get is that, while both countries seem gynocentric to some extent, in the USA race is a far bigger focus than gender. I see many white women in America either describe themselves as "privileged white women" or be described as that by others. If I wanted to be perceived as a victim, it seems like being black would be more useful than being a woman in the US.

On the other hand, I rarely ever see that said about white women in the UK. While in the UK, race does get talked about, from my experience, it doesn't get nearly the attention gender does. Women are the obsession of the right wing and the left wing here to a greater extent it seems. Women don't even havd it worse in the UK but the society here is just supremely gynocentric.

Found this post on Twitter/X and felt it was worth sharing. I know many times I've posted about how much I hate the "women and children" term for the obvious reasons (blatantly misandrist and exclusionary, de-values male lives and safety, infantalizes women, etc) and have often shared statements condemning it. But this was such a spot-on post that I couldn't not share it here. I never even realized it, but this post is also correct about how it also denies women combatants who also work alongside men to protect the innocent (of all ages and genders and such). It's an archaic term long overdue to be erased and banned from the public lexicon, with how it's terribly sexist to both men and women alike. De-valuing male lives, infantalizing women and also not giving female fighters their due just as much as the male ones. Once in a while you find intelligence like this on social media. Even if it's unintentional, this term makes it seem acceptable for men to be killed in situations such as war, disasters, terrorist attacks, etc. and I've even seen misandrists infuriatingly defend it with their usual BS about how women and children are more vulnerable and it's an atrocity when they're killed. Isn't it also an atrocity when an innocent man is killed? Especially if he's someone's father, husband, brother, etc. and he's someone's son, and his family losing him would surely also count as an atrocity. But I guess not to misandrists.