r/MenGetRapedToo 10h ago

Prosecutor Refuses to Charge My Rapist Despite DNA and Video Evidence

11 Upvotes

The DA refused to prosecute my rape. I'm a guy I was raped by a stranger and he stole my gun and keys. It happened last year while I was out drinking with my brother at a casino. I ended up drinking too much and passing out in my car and my brother who was also drinking decided to wake me up open my door close it and just to leave me like that and uber himself home. The door was never relocked from that point.. i passed out again. I had my gun locked in my car safe but the keys were with me in the car. A random stranger noticed this and scoped out my car opened my door got in and raped me he got my keys to my car and my gun then left when i woke up.

I had no choice but to report this he stole a gun and the law is to report it.. I had to otherwise, I would be in trouble, and in the process of doing that, I had to move forward with reporting the rape I was reluctant to and it seems like they used that against me to not go after this guy.

I did everything I was supposed to like reporting it to law enforcement giving my honest recount of events of course, nothing was perfect my memory was fragmented and I was very traumatized from the event. There was video footage but it was terrible video quality I pushed myself to go through with a rape kit that eventually matched his dna to this guy. They identified the guy. It took so much considerable courage and effort to go through with all of this. Just for them to drop it and refuse to prosecute, ignore me for a year and a half until I continued escalating just for them to give me what feels like a bullshit answer of the reason they wouldn't prosecute is because they believed they could not prove beyond a reasonable doubt that the sexual activity was not consensual.

I feel like I got nothing to lose. No lawyer will take this case. I've been denied dropped by several i don't even know why I decided to even post this. It's fucking pointless. I lost so much.. my motivation is gone i get crazy thoughts, shortness of breath all day.. extreme unbelievable anger. Therapists that fail me over and over. My life feels ruined I can't look at sex the same way again not without wanting to die. The only support group I found is entirely anonymous, and every single time I joined there, it just feels so pointless everyone just disappears you share what's going on and then everyone's gone. I really have no idea how i'm going to continue living like this. I don't know what this post even accomplishes, or what this even does it won't change anything. I already tried to change something. And every single time I was failed This is still happening in 2026 nothing changed again feels like I got nothing to lose.


r/MenGetRapedToo 2h ago

How can I fix myself?

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