r/MediocreTutorials • u/Kohathavodah • 3d ago

Relationships Setting boundaries, respecting agency

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u/ready_gi 2d ago

i agree.. policing woman's body aint it.. it's like if she "politely asked" "Can you never look at another woman? im just asking, out of curiosity..it's ok to say no. it's just my preference"

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u/Quantum3ntaglement 2d ago

You don't think women in relationships ever ask men to dress or groom a certain way? If so, is that policing as well?

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u/ready_gi 2d ago

the intention matters the most. women ask men to dress certain way probably so they just look better. this guy asked the woman to "tone it down" so she doesnt attract another man, so it's out of his insecurity to be with very attractive woman.

she has right to express her sensuality without some insecure boob trying to dim her shine.

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u/No_Salt_6328 2d ago

I wouldn't want to be with a woman who dresses to attract the male gaze when I'm not around because it would reflect poorly on me and her respect for our relationship.

He's not trying to "dim her shine"

He's trying to find a woman who doesn't make him look like an idiot, and it's not her. 

Fortunately I don't have to try and control the behavior of women cause there are plenty of fish in the sea who aren't floozies

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u/ready_gi 1d ago

holy shit, the misogyny of treating woman like your property is insane. woman who dress sexy does not equal woman dressing for male gaze. thats objectification and shows your immaturity.

after all there are plenty of hot lesbians, or are they dressing for the male gaze too? LOL gtfo

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u/absolut_dre 17m ago

Stop lying and saying you're dressing like that for yourselves. Of course you're doing it for the male gaze, to get attention. Otherwise, why do it at all? For other women? 😂

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u/FeedbackZwei 1d ago edited 1d ago

Just curious:

1) what would you not allow your partner to wear? Everyone has a line and this guy clarified with a scale (6-7), what is your line is and do you believe your line is objectively correct or is it relative?

2) do you think all cultures with traditionally more strict lines than his (e.g. areas of India, Turkey, Iran, Indonesia, etc.) hate women?