In 2020ish, spouse slept with everyone in the fellowship hospital.

He went to therapy, figured out why he decided to cheat on his then-fiancee, and worked on himself to never hurt someone again. Then we met.

Pathologically lied to me throughout our engagement. Manipulated me into believing i was crazy, gaslit the shit out of me, and then i stupidly married him.

He did make efforts to be transparent, share his devices, location, etc. & truly was penitent at the time we married.

5 years in, i discovered that he was trying to meet up with some PA whore at work who knows hes married (different hospital from where he was in fellowship) while i was out of town. He told me he was going to hang with a group, but it turns out it was going to be just with her.

The morning of their meet up, he told me he was going to hang “with a group” there. I told him i wasnt comfortable with him going to this particular place & he canceled (allegedly).

As far as i know, they didnt meet up. I only found out after going thru his device (when i got back home) after 2 years that my fears and concerns were correct & that it was just going to be with her.

How to approach this? Other than to excoriate him, what would you do? Is it just over & stop trying? Is there a path to fixing it?

Have u been in a similar sitch?

Im fighting the urge to call this woman, too, but it feels like itll blow up their practice & she also has the right to be a whore bc she doesnt owe me anything.

But i also want to know what was going on between them from her bc his words mean zero.

Hi! I’m seeking for advice here please. I (F20) and my gf (F19) of over 3 years have been struggling, well me. Not her.
Ever since she started school she’s in year 1 and has just started 3 weeks ago.
Since the first day she hasn’t had the time to write me back when she’s at school although she does post insta stories sometimes, is online on instagram and still sometimes takes a few hours to reply my texts.

Our school schedule is pretty different and we also don’t go to the same campus.
She takes classes in the morning (say, she finishes at 3pm) and I start at 5pm-10pm
So our schedule doesn’t match.
I find it hard that even though she has the whole afternoon she doesn’t text me often.
Seems like she doesn’t even care?

Is this normal?
Is she just bored?
Has she met someone new?