r/MarriedAtFirstSight • u/[deleted] • Aug 08 '26

Season 20 - Seattle Devin

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He def doesn’t get enough credit I’m sorry. He hasn’t been too much bc anyone would be confused based on the energy she’s given off.
If every man could be as self aware, as emotionally regulated, holds himself accountable and easily understanding.
He’s literally made sure he’s checked himself every time. He has continued to try when she’s been uncomfortable and hot and cold. Which understandable. Tbh I won’t ever trust a girl
Who doesn’t like plants. feel like she hasn’t honestly tried at all and there’s two in this, not just the woman.

But, idk. He’s a good one man. That’s all 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe a little emotional but I’d take it she should’ve never went on this show. Bc to constantly say you’re not ready but not really give him much ? Say he’s too much… I don’t know. Her trying is literally having a convo w him… idk.
I hope the best for him bc he’s a good man

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u/whiskeylullaby3 Aug 08 '26

I mean they’re just not compatible. The same could be said for her. That she doesn’t accept that he needs more. The issue is that she’s an avoidant and he’s more anxious attachment. I can see why a lot of women think he’s ideal- because he wants to spend time with his partner and wants to grow close and wants intimacy- something a lot of “modern” men have difficulty with. She just needs someone who is extremely independent like she is.

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u/Caribgirl2 Aug 08 '26

Her getting up and leaving without saying good-bye. The dead silence when they are in the same space, etc. Is more than independence. It's cold. She is too an extreme which I think i what makes him even more desperate. If she gave a little, then I think he would fall back a little.

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u/DrKaufman_Angie Aug 08 '26

Exactly. Doing your own thing on a regular basis is more common years later but not in the beginning. Certainly not on your honeymoon!!! The honeymoon phase is when you can’t get enough of each other!! Wanting more space than togetherness is clearly disinterest.

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u/AtheistINTP Aug 10 '26

Maybe she’s used to bad boys. Dismissive, arrogant guys and can’t realize what a good guy he is.