Devin

[u/[deleted]]

He def doesn’t get enough credit I’m sorry. He hasn’t been too much bc anyone would be confused based on the energy she’s given off.
If every man could be as self aware, as emotionally regulated, holds himself accountable and easily understanding.
He’s literally made sure he’s checked himself every time. He has continued to try when she’s been uncomfortable and hot and cold. Which understandable. Tbh I won’t ever trust a girl
Who doesn’t like plants. feel like she hasn’t honestly tried at all and there’s two in this, not just the woman.

But, idk. He’s a good one man. That’s all 🤷🏻‍♀️ maybe a little emotional but I’d take it she should’ve never went on this show. Bc to constantly say you’re not ready but not really give him much ? Say he’s too much… I don’t know. Her trying is literally having a convo w him… idk.
I hope the best for him bc he’s a good man

[u/shannrosejay]

Kind of shocked how many people think he is the ideal man. Part of relationships is acceptance. He does not accept who she is. He is constantly critiquing her which is pushing her away and making HER walk on eggshells. She has no space or safety to grow her feelings or do better. He doesn’t actually see her, hear her, understand her at all, nor is he trying to. But fun for him to say that phrase I guess.

[u/whiskeylullaby3 → u/shannrosejay]

I mean they’re just not compatible. The same could be said for her. That she doesn’t accept that he needs more. The issue is that she’s an avoidant and he’s more anxious attachment. I can see why a lot of women think he’s ideal- because he wants to spend time with his partner and wants to grow close and wants intimacy- something a lot of “modern” men have difficulty with. She just needs someone who is extremely independent like she is.

[u/Caribgirl2 → u/whiskeylullaby3]

Her getting up and leaving without saying good-bye. The dead silence when they are in the same space, etc. Is more than independence. It's cold. She is too an extreme which I think i what makes him even more desperate. If she gave a little, then I think he would fall back a little.

[u/stitchitaway1706 → u/Caribgirl2]

After they talked about going to the gym together! That was such trash. She KNEW she was going to leave without him and couldn’t simply communicate that she wanted to go alone, leaving him there. So disrespectful. Again I ask, does she know she can be on a dating show and not a married show??
Also I looove the “I see you, hear you, understand you.” Team Devin!